<p>I posted this in the UMich forum, but am putting it here as well to see what you guys think.</p>
<p>So essentially, after some pressure from mom, etc, I have decided to go to U of M. They originally gave me a 20k/year engineering scholarship (I'm out of state), and the executive director of student affairs arranged for my mother and I to fly up there (for free, kinda surprised me). She told me that she really wanted me at U of M and asked what she could do to get me to go there...my mom said maybe another 6 or 7k/year. The director said she will see what she can do and get back to me next week. (we talked to her last Friday). Yesterday (Tuesday), she emailed me saying...the College of Engineering (where I was accepted) was going to give me another 6k/year (as my mom had asked). So, we're getting a total of 26k/year (total for out of state is like 42/45ish?</p>
<p>As for Duke, they originally wanted us to pay for full price (like 50k/year). I sent my FA counselor an email saying we had a circumstance (stepfather's business was sold last year, it was added to our income making it really high). She replied back 9 days later (yes I hate to admit it....) saying that after consulting the director, they want documentation of the sale of the business in 2007 (the one my stepdad owned). So, we sent that around 4 days later...this Monday, we faxed it. Then I emailed her asking if she received it or not. Then, yesterday (after finding out U of M was giving me the extra 6k/year), I emailed the Duke lady and asked how long it would take for me to find out, since I was holding out on a scholarship from another school. She replied back today saying it would take 5-7 business days to get back with me on a final answer (she said this earlier in the previous email when she said that they wanted official documentation). Then an hour or two later, she replies saying that in light of the last email, they actually did not receive the documentation that my mother faxed to them.</p>
<p>This kind of ticked my mom off...because she really just wanted me to accept U of M's offer and she thought I was being arrogant by pushing off U of M and basically begging / waiting for Duke to give me money. Anyways, our family income was > 100k anyways (even if the business was not sold) but I just had hope they would give something. Even if they wouldn't match or get close to U of M, then I could finally just let it rest and accept that Duke wouldn't give me money. </p>
<p>My mom was already ****ed yesterday, but she kinda calmed down. After the Duke emails today, she started telling me that U of M might take their scholarship away if I take too long, etc. Anyways, she somehow convinced me and I wrote Duke Financial Aid an email saying I was not going to accept their offer of admission and I was disappointed in how long their admissions would take....</p>
<p>So now I feel a bit relieved, but also somewhat confused because I guess I turned down my #1 choice Duke, but U of M definitely isn't a bad alternative (still trying hard to convince myself of that lol).</p>
<p>Anyways, what do you guys think? I am in a complete mess in my head right now, but I am prbly going to pay my enrollment deposit tonight. Sorry for the whole story/long rant, just needed to get all this out...</p>
<p>I really hope I have made the right decision.</p>