I am currently a sophomore and I hated my freshman year at the college I am at. I am 8 hours away from home and I was always envious of my friends that could drive home for the weekend and be with their families. Also, the school that I go to is huge and in a city, so I have had a hard time making friends and the city life stresses me out and I miss living in the suburbs. I didn’t consider transferring after freshman year because I was accepted to my school’s prestigious nursing school and I thought that since I got in a had to go back. But, over the summer, I was dreading going back to school and was jealous of my friends who could not wait to go back and be with their friends.
I have been here for three weeks and I have been feeling very depressed and I have had a hard time getting myself to do classwork, and I’ve already taken a flight home to see my family and my boyfriend (which was expensive and I can’t do it often). Even after seeing them, I dreaded going back and had a very hard time getting on the plane to go back to school. I am also unsure if I even want to be a nurse, but I don’t know what else my major could be. I spend a lot of time searching for small schools that are close to my house, but transferring seems difficult and complicated for nursing students, which has really been very stressful for me. I think I want to go to a small school in the suburbs that will allow me to see more familiar faces and allow me to go home, but I am worried about transferring as a junior because I feel that I would not make any friends. Currently, I have two or three good friends but I still feel lonely and unhappy.
My boyfriend is still in my home state, and going to school closer to him would be a plus, but I am afraid that I want to transfer just because of him. I don’t think that I do, because I was unhappy at my current school last year when I wasn’t dating him. Despite that, when I do think about transferring, the idea of being able to see him more makes me happy. I am afraid of regretting my transfer and doing it for the wrong reasons.