<p>No one here is an authority to say what is norm, what is upper class, what is lower class. This is a big country, what is norm in the midwest may not be the norm in NE or CA. Everyone has their point of view as to what’s important to their life. It doesn’t make one more valid than another. I don’t think POIH’s point of view is that Asian specific, because I could see 600 sets of parents at my kids’ private school with similar view (at least some of it). I would at least say, they don’t necessary have the view as many parents on this forum.
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<p>I could name enough of white parents who have picked Yale over Duke (full ride), or Harvard over any school, at my kids’ school. If it’s clearly not the case in the US then there would be over 20,000+ kids applying to those schools. They couldn’t all be Asian kids.</p>