<p>One of my English teachers from High School lets us add him on Facebook after we graduate, so most of us did. He's super cool, knows a lot, is in a band, and has traveled Europe a lot. He's 32. So me and my friend added him. But he gets close to certain students. Like he dated a student while she was a senior but it was hushed up. But if you get on his good side he treats you as in equal.</p>
<p>My friend and I barely spoke to him in high school but had his AP class. Now that my friend is in college she is more out of the closet as a bisexual, she cut her hair, and has a girlfriend and she messaged me one night telling me the students he didn't like during high school. I asked her how she knew this and she told me he was chatting with her on facebook and she had told him a lot of about how high school was rough for her, the people who bothered her , and the details of her some of her rough patches.</p>
<p>She told me he wished he had been there for her and stuff and gave her his phone number and invited her for coffee sometime. She seemed flattered by it (not in a romantic way mind you). </p>
<p>Is it normal for teachers to do this after students graduate? My friend and I are freshmen btw.</p>
<p>I think it’s a little weird - I am friends with one of my high school English teachers, but I think it’s really inappropriate for him to discuss specific students that he didn’t like.</p>
<p>I think it’s creepy that he dated a senior. Just throwing that out there.</p>
<p>What does her sexuality and hair cut have to do with anything? </p>
<p>I don’t think it’s weird in general for hs teachers to ask former students for coffee to catch up. However, this guy just seems creepy. She’s an adult though and it’s her decision.</p>
<p>Also, it’s highly unprofessional to discuss other students- even if they’re now adults. It might even be illegal but I’m not sure.</p>
<p>I only mentioned that part because she started to be open about it making post on facebook and putting up pictures on facebook. It was like a transformation and everyone was very welcoming to it. It was also one of the things he chatted with her about, he said he was proud of her or whatever for doing it.</p>
<p>Yes, it’s weird. Not the being friends with teachers necessarily but this one teacher specifically. I have hs teachers I was close with that I get coffee with sometimes but we’re not blabbing about other students and none of them have dated students. That’s borderline, if not fully, illegal. (The dating a student bit). It’s fine if a teacher wants to help a student but different when said teacher has had inappropriate relationships with students in th past.</p>
<p>Teachers remaining close with certain students, in general, is not weird or abnormal. My HS math teacher was also my cross-country coach, so naturally I had a closer relationship to him than a basic student-teacher one. He remained a role model for me and I still occasionally speak with him. Same with my social sciences HS teacher - was my football coach and since graduating we’ve invited each other’s families over for functions and get togethers.</p>
<p>The only thing that might be unethical, or at the least unprofessional, is the speaking about other students to other students.</p>
<p>Bottom line, it’s fine for people to get together for coffee post-student-teacher status as teachers, most of the good ones at least, realize they provide a bigger role in adolecent and young adult’s lives rather than just teaching them subject material. Your friend should be mature enough to know if she would be willing to start a romantic relationship with someone like that, and if he’s a bit of a creeper, then it’s highly beneficial for her to have a friend like you to confide in with everything about the relationship. Heaven forbid she go missing or something happens to her because of a creppy relationship, at least you can attempt to vouch for her - and FB messages especially would help - in determining circumstances.</p>