<p>Hey guys, i'm new to this. I've just been placed on academic suspension for the first time & Idk how to tell my parents. Anyone care to help me.?! </p>
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<p>You just have to tell them Before you do I think you should figure out why you didn’t do well and what you will do to ensure that the next semester turns out better. Whatever you do you need to assume responsibility for your actions. Don’t blame it on somebody else.</p>
<p>suggest you read this thread, about the same thing:
“Flunked my first semester of college”</p>
<p>You have to tell the immediately. While it might seem scary, the earlier you do it the easier it will be. It’s much better that you tell them, than the truth coming out a different way.</p>
<p>Explain the entire situation, what went wrong. Tell them that you made a mistake, and after they vent they will understand and try to do damage control.</p>
<p>I agree, you need to tell them, but I can understand your concern, with people coming home for the holiday crush it may feel like there is no good time. If this is your first term and you are the first kid off to college, it can be very stressful with everyone wondering what went wrong and how to make it right.</p>
<p>The timing is up to you, but you should find a good time on this holiday break to share the bad news.</p>
<p>Did you make the common freshman mistake? Just because they don’t take attendance doesn’t mean you don’t need to go to class. I highly recommend starting out your college career attending every single class. Once you are comfortably doing well, after a term or two under your belt, you will be able to judge when you can and cannot miss class.</p>
<p>College profs do not hold your hand, you can be listening to logical lectures and think it all makes sense, until you see the exam. Figure out what went wrong and make some changes, you can recover. Most smart kids are able to skate through many parts of HS, the first time you are required to really work hard and really study, you are not just learning the material, you are learning how YOU best study and there will be some bumps on that road.</p>
<p>Believe in yourself, don’t give up, but make some changes</p>
<p>Any idea WHY you did so poorly? Was the material too hard? Study habits? Not adequately prepared? Not pacing yourself properly? Serious medical condition? As was said, work with your U to figure out how you can do better, even if it means taking fewer classes and doing REALLY well in them. Get to know your instructors–go to their office hours and go over any material you find puzzling or confusing.</p>
<p>As a parent, it’s easier to take when my kid admits s/he messed up, takes responsibility and has a plan on how to improve things. Work with your U to be sure next term is much better. Us often have study coaches and other help so students can stay more organized.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone for the great advice.! Telling my parents this news is definitely going to be difficult, especially since they’re very strict when it comes to school. I’m really scared of the consequences though… at the beginning of the semester, my dad said he was going to kick me out if I mess up…With that type of pressure & no motivation at all, I was bound to mess up…</p>
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Try to take some ownership for your own mess up. With this kind of attitude, my prediction is the conversation is not going to go well.</p>
<p>^What she said. This is not your parents’ faults. You may have signed up for courses that were too difficult or realized too late you were in trouble, but your parents have nothing to do with your failure. You should have a plan for how you will do better and how you will make up the work since you just wasted thousands of dollars of your parents hard earned cash.</p>
<p>You are an adult. You are responsible for your actions. You are responsible for the consequences. Nobody else is. </p>
<p>Tell your parents. If your dad asks you to move out. Move out. Move far away. If your dad kicks you. Call the police. </p>
<p>Ultimately it’s your life now. You are an adult. Your parents don’t really get a say. They will either lend you emotional support or not. If not, remove yourself from a toxic situation. You can. You are an adult. </p>
<p>Maybe you need to take a break from college, get a job, and see if that gives you some motivation. College only benefits you if you have the motivation to succeed. If you don’t, it’s a waste of time and money, and you’d be digging the hole deeper. </p>
<p>If you can, seek some therapy. You may have some mental health issue.</p>
<p>If you had no motivation at all, then college was probably a bad idea to begin with. </p>
<p>You need to have a plan and communicate that plan to your parents - that’s about all you can do.</p>
<p>Sounds like you need to take some time off from school and get a job until you HAVE some motivation. Working will help you put things in perspective and give you new appreciation for WHY you’re going to school.</p>
<p>My D did poorly one term but she did all she could to fix it and came to us with her plan. She did take ownership. If she blamed us in any way or failed to take ownership and have a plan, it would NOT have gone well around here either. Most parents would agree with post 8 and all the others. YOU need a plan–explain what YOU did wrong, take ownership and what YOU will do differently to get better results.</p>