Oh the irony! Back in the day, IIT students from India applied to Clemson comp sci hoping to be one of the lucky ones accepted into the Phd program.
OP, I get that this is just venting. It’s hard to be surrounded by kids who will be sending in applications left and right to any school they want - while you feel stuck in-state through no fault of your own. But between now and April 1, you’ll discover that a lot of the people talking trash about their state schools are going to end up in-state because, while they might get accepted OOS, they can’t afford to attend or the incremental cost is in no way justified by the qualitative differences in the programs. And don’t be so quick to write off grad school either - life takes you to unexpected places (even the people who go to school in-state.)
And although you aren’t in the mood to hear it, kudos to your dad for setting an important example of the meaning of family by supporting those back in India who need the help. I know it may feel like its being done at your expense, but it’s what good people do.