<p>For this semester I was made to move in with two new roommates and I hadn't had any problems until today. </p>
<p>I have a diary that I keep in my desk and today, when I opened the drawer it was in, I realized that somebody had read it and went through my stuff. First of all, everything in my drawer was not in the order I'd left it. Second of all, my journal has one of those ribbons attached to the spine that are supposed to be used as bookmarks. I always leave the ribbon placed inside on the last page I've written, but today it was completely outside the diary.</p>
<p>I'm really angry about this and I feel violated. Both of my roommates seem like respectful, nice people, but I guess one of them is secretly invasive. </p>
<p>I have a lot of private things written in there, so I also feel embarrassed. What should I do? I know that if I openly asked, neither of them would admit to doing it. Should I just start to completely ignore them? I don't really want to be friends with someone who's invaded my privacy like that. But this also means that I'd be ignoring one roommate who hasn't done anything.</p>
<p>That’s very unfortunate. First off, I would suggest you put your diary somewhere more secure. As for who did it… Well, it might not have been one of your roommates, but it sounds like it likely was. You could try an elaborate scheme to catch them if they tried again, but either way, it sounds like a tough situation.</p>
<p>To be safe, I would suggest getting new roommates next year.</p>
<p>you could also say something that was in it thats kinda embarrassing and the roommate that doesnt look surprise once you tell them is the one who looked in it…or you could pretend its lost and ask them if they seen it…or you could talk to each one individually and tell them that you think the other roommate looked into your stuff…idk im just thinking as i go lol</p>
<p>Parent here. If I were you, I would have a talk with your roommates and say something to the affect of, “I know that somebody went through my drawer and looked at my diary. I am not accusing either of you, I am just asking that you respect my privacy and make sure that you lock the door when you leave the room.” That way, you let them know that you know somebody went through your stuff and you don’t expect it to happen again, without accusing anyone and causing hard feelings.</p>
<p>Well there’s a huge difference between reading a journal and moving a ribbon while looking for something. (I know I used to reach into my roommate’s desk for a pen without much thought and she would do the same.)
One, don’t keep it in your desk drawer. That’s where everyone keeps everything. I doubt it even happened, but it won’t if you move it somewhere less obvious.</p>
