I say you just proceed as if you are full pay for everywhere. That’s in info your parents have given you. You can now decide if you should just rule out all the schools without merit that will be full pay (Harvard and the gang) and perhaps even those that have merit but are pretty competitive for those merit awards like Vandy and Duke; it’s up to you if you want to take that chance, but just be sure to have a bunch of affordable schools where you’ll be admitted.
If your parents don’t like your list, then they are going to have to understand the economics, that if they make $150-200k, you won’t be getting a lot of need based aid and they would be expected to pay $50k+ per year after your loans.
I’d start loving those instate schools, make sure you get the Hope/Zell miller and that you earn some of the rest yourself.