<p>I know high school is a period of time where you think "no one understands" and where everyone feels "out". But it does seem like most people have at least one good friend.</p>
<p>I think I have a group of "friends". I sit with them at lunch, hang with them during free periods, sit next to them in class, etc. However, I don't hang with them during the weekends, chill at the malls, sleepover, etc. I know I'm left out of things; their facebook statuses gives it away (at mall with XYZ, chillin with A, etc).</p>
<p>I know that they all can't be the problem, so it's most likely me. But my friends always tell me that I'm the nicest, sweetest, person they ever met. Or that if they ever need to talk to someone, they know they could come to me. Or their most loyal friend. So even if they think I'm such a good friend, why don't they include me in outside activities that friends partake in?</p>
<p>I thought they could be straight lying to my face, but I want to believe they aren't those types of people. I guess you could say I see the glass as half full...</p>
<p>Is it just a high school/teenager thing? Is it just me? If it is, I want to change myself (for the better) right away.</p>
<p>I think almost everybody feels like that at some point. If I were you I would just invite some of them to do something. Go out, come over, chill, etc.</p>
<p>I’m assuming you are considered “smart” by your peers (CC stereotype), and some people think that we smart people don’t like to have fun. I mean I was the basketball statistician (I know I’m a nerd, don’t remind me), and now the season is over and I chill with the team and go to parties with them every weekend. </p>
<p>But it does suck when you hear people you consider your best friends say, “Oh that was awesome this weekend” or “Are you coming over tonight” to another one of your friends. You’re just kind of like…■■■?</p>
<p>Ok this turned into a very long post. I apologize.</p>
<p>Hmm… do you ever invite people to hang out with you, instead of just waiting for them to invite you places?</p>
<p>It couldn’t hurt to maybe ask one or two of the people you hang around to go and see a movie, or go out to dinner one night. </p>
<p>I don’t know you… so I honestly can’t say if it’s you, or just a “high school/teenager” thing. But, you seem like a nice person! (especially if they tell you are sweet/nice/loyal). Also, you don’t want to be someone you’re not, just to get people to like you! </p>
<p>Take initiative, and ask them to do something yourself! :)</p>
<p>I do invite them over… in fact, the only times I have hung out with them was with me inviting them. From movies, to hanging out before homecoming, playing in the snow (we live in texas), and even invited them to bowl/ropes course/laser tag. It seemed like they had lots of fun… =(</p>
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Yup yup. We were sitting at lunch one day, and everyone but me and like 2 other people were invited to a girl’s party. They were all talking about what they were going to get the birthday girl and what they would dress as. I was thinking, “really guys? really? i’m sitting right here and your STILL talking about it?”</p>
<p>I feel like that sometimes…
You should try organizing a group thing. Or maybe they dont invite you because theyre not used to you going out with them- so they might feel like you wouldnt want to go.</p>
<p>I know this sounds self absorbed, but if I was another person, I’d want to hang out with me too. I am nice to them, I don’t gossip about them with the others (like they do among themselves).</p>
<p>You could always try being confrontational. One time when they’re talking about something they did together, just say, “Hey, how come you guys don’t invite me to hang out with you?” Maybe they just don’t realize that they are excluding you… However, confronting friends is easier for some than it is for others.</p>
<p>Do you call them regularly? Sometimes long phone calls can be a nice bonding session. Sleepovers too.</p>
<p>Maybe they see you as a really sweet girl, but not really “in”. I know a bunch of nice people and we’re all friends, but there’s really no personal connection in comparison to my best friends.</p>
<p>I’m sort of like that with my friends. When they talk about weekend things, it usually doesn’t sound like I’m invited, but I’m only really friends with one of them, and I’m invited, at least tacitly and indirectly, as long as she is.</p>
<p>I hate going out with my friends though, for the most part, so I’m glad I don’t have that sort of pressure on me.</p>
<p>“But it does suck when you hear people you consider your best friends say, “Oh that was awesome this weekend” or “Are you coming over tonight” to another one of your friends. You’re just kind of like…■■■?”</p>
<p>That’s been my senior year…which is kind of odd, cuz isn’t that supposed to be the best year? My last three years were awesome…boo : (</p>