Overbearing mom

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<p>I'm having a lot of issues dealing with it. First, the reason why I'm going to community college instead of university is A) I had to live on campus, and she told me she wouldn't support me if I had to leave home. I have no credit history, and I got a scholarship, but it wasn't going to help me much because it only covered a little less than half the tuition. and B) it's cheaper, so she helped me pay (we're not a poor family, fyi, not even close).</p>

<p>I'm 19 in October, and I still don't have my license. I am about to take my test this Thursday, but the funny thing is, my mom told me that I'd be carpooling with her and my dad to school (and hear her complaining for yet another year about my classes being so early in the morning), and to get to work I'd have to take the bus and she'd (my dad, in reality) pick me up from work.</p>

<p>I've spent the past 5 years working around my parent's schedule and waiting, waiting, waiting. I thought turning 18 and going to college would mean being more independent. And not only was I tricked into staying in community college where I won't get to experience all the fun that I've been looking forward to in going to university, I won't even be able to be independent and will once again have to depend on my parents to get from point A to point B, and they are NOT reliable. </p>

<p>Help. I don't know what to do. I don't want to be dependent on ANYBODY but myself. I have a job, all I need is my license so I can open a bank account, run the errands that I need, etc etc... Because when I need something done, it's always put off. I had my boyfriend go out and help me with school supplies because my parents are too lazy to go with me and buy my school supplies (which I paid for all myself). They always say "Oh we'll do it tomorrow." Fast forward months later and it's still not done, and there was a week until classes started. And now imagine that when I need toothpaste, or any other supply. It took 6 months to get around to getting my contacts.
I hate delays, I just want to get done what I need to get done. And I can't because if I need to go somewhere, I have to work with their schedule and their procrastination.</p>

<p>What do I do?</p>

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<p>Maybe you should take some time off from college to save up and move out. It sounds like it would be much more beneficial for you to move out and save up, then work part-time to support yourself while going to school.</p>

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<p>You can get an ID without having a drivers license. I would do that, first thing.</p>

<p>Then, I would have a conversation with your parents about how willing they would be to help you out financially if you choose to transfer to a residential university after earning an Associate’s degree. If they won’t then at some point you are going to have to set out on your own. If you get them to no longer claim you as a dependent on their taxes, then you will have a low-enough income to be be eligible for substantial financial aid. </p>

<p>Despite missing out on some of the fun you were anticipating, I’d recommend sticking it out at the local community college until you have an Associate’s degree, which should be able to readily transfer to one of your in-state universities. Until then, you can start becoming more independent, such as figuring out how to get to school without your parents.</p>