Overprotective Parents

<p>I’m not allowed to sleep over at others’ house, I can’t go to people’s houses just for fun, can’t go to the mall alone, my father walks me into the movie theater and buys my snacks for me, can’t wear makeup, not allowed to have a Facebook (long story), not allowed to date, in bed by 10 on school nights (will probs change in the coming years), in bed by 12 on weekends. Of course, I’m only a freshman so I’m still kind of young but a lot of these rules are slowly changing… :D</p>

<p>My dad’s always out of town, and my parents are practically seperated. He’s really chill but my mom’s rules:

  1. I’m not allowed to date till I go to college because it’ll interupt school and “The girls in our town are trashy.”…Yeah idk how long Im gonna actually listen to that.
  2. Never lets me out past 10:30 at school events. I dont even know about non school events because there’s really nowhere to go at night in my town if you dont have a car.
  3. She’s Muslim, and constantly wants me to follow her religion even though I have no belief in it (my dad’s christian for the record but unreligious.)
  4. Wont let me eat the school’s lunch often because it’s “unhealthy.” I hate bringing lunch because you feel like a loner while your friends are in line.
  5. Never allowed to sleep over at friends houses because “anything could happen.”
  6. Will freak out if I get a B on anything (which isnt a big deal B/c I care about my grades.)
  7. Have to be asleep at 10:30. I hate this! Does she not realize that I have AP and Honors hw!?</p>

<p>One of my friends has never slept over anyone’s house. Until a few weeks ago, she wasn’t even allowed to hang out with her friends at their houses. (We got to hang out at my house during the hurricane.)</p>

<p>I started sleeping over my childhood ex-best friend’s house when I was 6 and vice versa</p>

<p>Select PG-13 movies mean practically any action or sports movie.</p>

<p>I really dont care about, as i instead watch L&O, Star Trek, and Hogans Heroes.</p>

<p>@Goodnoodle: Wow. I have to be in my bedroom by 10:30
Which means i fall asleep by 11:30</p>

<p>… Wow. I guess my parents aren’t that protective, after all. </p>

<p>I can’t hang out with anyone they don’t know (regardless of how long I’ve known them/how close we are), and I’m not allowed to date anyone they haven’t met (although I’ve only had to deal with this once). I wasn’t allowed to go on walks, either.</p>

<p>The rest is basically up to me. I’ve never really had a curfew (at 13 they didn’t like when I strolled in around midnight, but ehhh), could watch whatever movies I wanted (again, past 13 or so), no bedtime after freshman year, was told not to do social networking (but went ahead and did so anyway), etc…</p>

<p>Basically, my parents tried to implement measures like other posters, but didn’t care enough to follow through on punishment when I decided to stop listening. </p>

<p>I also still hang out with people they don’t know (I went to Denny’s w/ my section after championships on Saturday at 1:30-2 AM… Guy:girl ~7:2, including me); the thought of informing my mother doesn’t even cross my mind because I never do regardless of whom I’m with, and she often doesn’t even notice that I’m gone.with.</p>

<p>@kyp she wants lights out and laying in bed by 10:30. I always watch tv and she’s okay with that but I can’t remember the last time I fell asleep before 11 30 so idk why she won’t at least let me be productive.</p>

<p>My family is Indian, but they aren’t the traditional family: they’re really chill.</p>

<p>I can come home whenever I want (at a "reasonable time = before 2 AM), I can hangout with whoever (they trust my judgement), I don’t have to ask for permission for every little thing etc. Same with dating. I can go out with whoever, as long as I don’t get anyone pregnant.</p>

<p>They also aren’t anal over grades. I have been good with them, so they leave me to it lol. They’ve never been the type that like force me to study: if I bring home results, they don’t care what I do to get them. The same thing applied for SATs/ACTs. They didn’t force me to study, but they expected a certain result. As long as I can met those expectations, I’m good. They don’t really care whether I study, or how long I study, or whether I ace every tests or whatever. Just the final result.</p>

<p>The entire college process was (and still is) up to me. My parents had no role in anything other than telling me that they could pay full at any school. Otherwise, they were completely laissez-faire, which again, is what I like. I like having the freedom to do things the way I want, when I want, and how I want. </p>

<p>The bad part about this used to be procrastination; I would never get anything done cause they never prodded me. But eventually, I got over that, and now, I can get all of my work done on time without any reminders. I think that will help me in the future.</p>

<p>Same thing applies to bedtime. I can sleep whenever I want as long as I wake up the next day. They don’t wake me up either: if I don’t get up, then I’m late to school, so I learned quickly to sleep at a normal time and learn to use alarms.</p>

<p>And in terms of religion, my parents are devout Hindus, but they never really forced me to be one. Sure, we go to religious events, but my parents have never said “do this cause it’s written in an ancient book.” They’ve always explained it to me. And even when I started to identify as atheist, they still really didn’t make a big deal. Lol we still have religious discussions every day, and they still are happy to let me speak my mind.</p>

<p>As for social networking, my parents trust my judgement on what to post and what not to, so I’ve never really had much of a problem. I got fb in ninth grade, and though they never monitored it, I’ve never posted anything detrimental.</p>

<p>Not to say my parents aren’t involved in my life lol. They are very involved! They just let me live my own life, and choose my own path.</p>

<p>You guys have it hard. I’m allowed to do so much, my house is the house that everyone comes to because of my parents. I can hang out with my best guy friend whenever, my friends can just show up at my house, I can basically go anywhere since I drive, I’ve been allowed to rake the grain to the city (29 minute drive to the train then an hour into Manhattan)
Yeah my parents are very relaxed people.</p>

<p>My parents don’t give a sh** what I do. But, they are overprotective of my brother because he needs to be “monitored”.</p>

<p>I’m the good child, so basically I have very very minimum protection. No bed times. As long as I inform them, I can go out with whoever. I tell my parents my grades because I care about that, but I I didn’t they wouldn’t really be concerned. I wasn’t allowed to date until 16 though although my parents were getting more lenient about that rule around 14, but my choices suck so I didn’t really really need that rule. Same with make-up, but ehh… Apparently I can make the informed judgements about what to do since I’ve never acted like my age. :)</p>