<p>I have this *friend who, well has been basically a pain in the rear. She does very poorly in all her subjects so she continuously badger me to tutor her. So I ended up spending hours (literally, almost three) every day going over physics, government, and calculus with her to make sure she understands the concept. This went on for a whole semester? Then a mutual friend suggested that maybe she could talk to her counselor to get me mentoring credit? she agreed.
So she went to talk to her counselor, who suggested that she talk to her teachers. So I went with her and she asked if I could get mentoring credit? and the teacher said that she had been doing really, really well on her tests? and that she doesn?t need a mentor? and guess what? She jumped in and agreed! She said that really, just studying with her wasn?t enough to constitute as ?mentoring? and that she would have done fine by herself? despite the fact that her scores started to improve right after I started helping her!
So I stopped helping her a few weeks ago, and we are still kind of friends. But recently she has started badgering me about helping her again since she completely flunked her last test? literally, 12/50.
IDK, should I help her? It seem the right thing to do? but it takes a major strain on my schedule and I?m rather annoyed that she would make little of how much I?m helping her just to look good in front of a teacher? Seriously, moral dilemma right here...</p>
<p>Nope, let her burn for a couple weeks... If she gets really desperate, you'll be on the top of the bargaining. You can ask for payment, lunch, credit, slave labor etc...</p>
<p>Tell her you will help for half an hour max. If she needs more, she needs to go get you mentoring credit. Half an hour is friendship, 3 hours is mentoring/tutoring.</p>
<p>If she was awful enough to say that she didn't need your help, then remind her of that and don't give her your help. I assume you're in high-level classes, so just say your busy with homework if you need an excuse.</p>
<p>Don't give her help. Get her to admit she lied and get mentoring credits or tell her to pay you 15 dollars an hour for the past times you helped her. Until she does that, don't give her ****</p>
<p>Doesn't sound like a friend to me.</p>
<p>First question: What is with the numerous question marks in your post, or are my eyes playing trick on me?</p>
<p>Second question: What would Jesus do?
Answer: Smite that biatch, send her to hell for a week, bring her back to life and then say "have you learn your lesson or do you still more vacation time with Lucifer?"</p>
<p>Serious answer:
Confront her with your feeling and thought. You felt betray by her comment during the meeting with the teacher, and you want an apology IN FRONT of the forementioned teacher and then you can help her again.</p>
<p>Ha ha, sounds like you have an "EX"-friend. Dude, why are you even bothering to help her since she just "diss" you infront of the teacher. Not so cool even though she said she agreed to ask for the mentoring credit. If she needs help, tell her to go to the teacher. Some friend she is. xD I break up with her! =] Bye bye bye! xD [hint hint: N'SYNC music] xP</p>
<p>thats nuts, its almost like your holding her hand through all her classes.</p>
<p>Sounds like you're a doormat and the girl you consider to be a friend is no friend. My suggestion is to grow a spine and drop her. She's using you.</p>
<p>This is your "friend." I'm with Northstarmom. Lose her.</p>
<p>yep sounds like a loser</p>
<p>Tell her the wrong information to confuse her even more =)</p>
<p>Just kidding...</p>
<p>Just ask for money...it looks like outside tutoring so...about $15~20 an hour? Get your money's worth. 3 hours is a lot of time for a senior.</p>
<p>I don't understand why you're even <em>considering</em> continuing to help her. She's not a friend; she stabbed you in the back in front of the teacher. You owe her nothing.</p>
<p>She's obviously not looking out for you and your best interest, because mentoring WOULD look really good on an application, but volunteer to help her during lunch and free periods or on the phone at night if necessary, but don't go too far out of your way.</p>
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<p>Good grief, why? You owe this person nothing. NOTHING!!!! She owes you LOTS for your having helped her during the first semester.</p>
<p>My friend tutored me for like half an hour after school, and it was NOT enough. Half an hour goes by fast if it's a subject like Calculus. I would think that an hour at most is okay without getting some compensation. I only asked my friend for help once because I did not want to burden her, and she even offered to tutor me weekly, but I said that it was all right. I love my friend because she's really sweet and didn't mind helping me that once. I did not take advantage of her kindness.. :)</p>
<p>Three hours is too much. Her grades are not your responsibility. You are growing resentful because she has done so well, but only because YOU have been there holding her hand. Please do not continue helping her.. you will grow increasingly upset with your "friend" and is way too time-consuming -- you can be focusing on YOUR interests, not hers.</p>
<p>You could try to strike a deal with her.. get her to admit that all those hours you spent with her were 'mentoring' (in such a way that will allow you to reference it, i.e. in writing or to a teacher/guidance counselor) and you'll help her out for this semester. This will keep you from looking like a jerk in any way and all that time you spent tutoring her might not have been wasted after all.</p>
<p>I "tutored" a kid who regularly gets 20% on chemistry tests for thirty minutes after school, and the next day, he got 70% on the test... I don't understand how it can take three hours. Maybe you should convince her to drop?</p>
<p>Actually my friend tutors me in calculus too and half an hour usually does the trick. I agree with you that an hour would be ideal, but since this girl has been rather disrespectful she doesn't deserve a full hour until she treats her tutors appropriately.</p>