I’m a high school sophomore who recently moved between parents. I now live with my dad, and in a fairly-small apartment where my late-night (as in… until like 12:30 LATEST) studying interferes with his ideals. If I’m studying past as early as 7 PM and have lights on, he tends to start yelling at me and threatening to take my books and computer away. THE THING IS: I have a fairly-rigorous course load, considering that I’m a sophomore (honors/ap core curriculum, a college-level computer networking class (it’s pretty much online and self-driven. the only proctored coursework are the chapter tests), a writing lab that requires 2 to 3 10-25 paragraph essays a week, a pretty extensive theatre class that requires a theatrical history/memorization/presentation components, an online honors foreign language due to how my school’s equivalent was full). I’m also a very hands-on learner, and when it comes to anything technical, I find taking extensive notes imperative to my understanding of the curriculum. My school also has a block schedule, so whenever I have a class, it’s spent being assessed. We are rarely taught during class past foundational concepts, and it’s impossible to fully grasp them without additional, independent review.) Adding up, this gives me about 30 hours or homework/study time a week (I take advantage of weekends), and my dad’s allotted time of 3 hours a day does not suffice. I also have ADHD and simply cannot condense 5 or 6 hours of daily work even further. I need advice. He doesn’t allow me any freedom. He won’t even let me stay up past 8 without being yelled at. Whenever I confront him or anyone else with the ramifications, I’m told that “it’s because he cares about me.” It’s all really upsetting to me because I really care about my education and enjoy my classes/going over the material, and his regulations have negatively affected my grades and classroom presence. WHAT DO I DO???
the parentheses in this are messy YIKES! but anyway, any advice would be welcomed and appreciated.
Maybe have a GC talk to him
You’re a sophomore and you can’t stay up past 8? That’s awful!
I think you need to sit down and talk with your dad. Tell him AP classes require this amount of work, and how much your schoolwork means to you. If your dad absolutely CANNOT have a normal conversation (like my dad), have a meeting with your GC & dad. Your GC can try to explain how much work APs require, & that your dad should be encouraging you!
Does he have to get up super early for work, so lights are disturbing to him? Do you have any study halls? Are you overloaded (this online history class makes me wonder)?
If you go to bed early, can you get up early and get something done?