Is BPD care covered by insurance yet, or is is still billed under anxiety or depression? I know that in the 2013 DSM, Axis II personality disorders were not covered and there was some advocacy going on, as well as research geared to legitimizing the diagnosis with insurance. At that time BPD hospitalizations were sometimes out of pocket. How are things now?
Colleges vary so much in what is available. Surprisingly one very small artsy college had a psychiatrist and therapist on staff in their clinic. Larger universities including Ivies tend to have a mental health staff but may also refer students out. Student insurance may have co-pays that can become onerous, and some therapists may be out of network, which may cost more.
We bought a small lockbox for meds but honestly not sure if kids used them! I still handled prescriptions for the first year. Starting freshman year was enough for them to handle. By graduation they were completely independent on this.
Is she eligible for accommodations through the Office of Disabilities? If so, then registering with that office is important. We honestly found that it was very very hard to tell how good a college would be in terms of health or mental health, before actually attending. Others may disagree. And we also found that the main source of help is NOT the Office of Disabilities but usually a dean of some sort. The O of D will provide a letter for your daughter to give professors but the conversation is up to her. She is not required to tell profs her disability, but the info is on file.
We wrote our own letters for the O of D to request accommodations, and the relevant professional signed it. The doctors never minded this and actually appreciated it. I got lists of accommodations from googling!
Distance is a difficult one. I felt strongly that my kids should make their own choices and that in the spirit of the Americans with Disabilities Act, should not be limited in choices due to their âdisabilityâ whether medical or psychiatric.
One went to school 3 hours away and honestly it was stressful for me, but not for her, so that was key. Whose stress is it concerning distance? She had been in the hospital 6 months prior. My other kids chose schools an hour or so away, much to my relief- but I tried not to say a word to influence!
Some kids need an environment that is small and personalized, and some need large and anonymous. It is hard to generalize. We always took our kids to the Amherst MA area so they could see a large state school, a small liberal arts school and an alternative college all in one day. They didnât apply to any of them but it was a start. I think urban/suburban/rural, rigor and competitiveness, academic and extracurricular quality were all important considerations. We visited for the usual tours and info sessions but hung out on the green, in the dining hall , library and bookstore to get the vibe.
It would seem that a very rigorous school with lots of work should be avoided, but then some kids thrive with that. Again, hard to generalize.
Good luck. Itâs tough. I think even tougher without a diagnosis as yet. BPD is tough that way and a lot of people donât understand it.