Ok, first off I am a big believer in letting my kids handle things on their own, but know at times parents may need to step in for various reasons.
Daughter applied to a school on December 1st, with rolling admissions. She is suppose to play softball at this school so she need the final acceptance letter to make everything “official”. We had not head anything by Jan 15th, so daughter inquired about her status and was told by admissions counselor that it was on the Directors desk and had no idea why it was not processed yet but would hear something by end of the week. (They also said it takes them only about 2-3 weeks to give a decision in most cases)
She then called back at the end of the following week as we had no email or letter and asked if something was wrong or missing from package and was told that her letter was done and just needed to be mailed out. (And cant say over phone if its acceptance or denial)
Fast forward to two days ago and was told Admissions Director has it and they are not sure what happened why we have no answer and no ETA on a answer.
As a parent I want to call and get to the bottom of what is going on. Something does not sound right and sounds like she is getting the run around.
If its a Yes, great!! If its a no, not happy but great!! This is her first choice school to learn and play ball but also has some other schools that are interested in her playing, just wanting an answer so we can move on or start lining things up.
I have thought of giving the coach a ring, was just worried about pitting admissions against athletics, but that was an option I thought of also. Thank you.
Definitely the coach. She’s got skin in this game as well, and usually there’s enough of a relationship that they’ll explain the actual issues. But if that falls through then I’d head back to admissions. If nothing else, someone should go through that office and see if everyone’s OK: if it takes a month to sign and mail a letter there could be a gas leak or some debilitating diseases running wild.
I’d have the GC call or your kid’s HS coach maybe. I would worry that they are waiting on another, higher prioritized recruit to make a decision and in the end your kid might just be left with the empty mitt. Also think this is a good opportunity for your kid to advocate for themselves. It is fine line I know, but nothing wrong with saying " I need an answer". The school/coach will either appreciate that your kid is standing up for themselves or hold it against them (in which case why would you want to play ball for that kind of coach?)
Why does she have to have an answer from them now? Does she have a deadline to commit to elsewhere shortly? Or is it just that they said it only takes two or three weeks for the decision. If she is not facing the pressure of another school asking for an answer, then just let it play out.
I agree with brantly. Most schools won’t notify you until March, so unless there’s some reason why she must know today, why not just wait? Then she can compare this school’s aid package with those of the other schools where she is accepted.
What’s the worst thing that could happen? You can’t possibly believe that they were going to admit her, but since you made a phone call - she’s denied!?
Pick up the phone and call. Otherwise you are going to be thinking about it all weekend