<p>Hi There,</p>
<p>I have a weird roommate situation. I figured that before I talk to her about it in depth, I would come here for some quick 'parental' advice.</p>
<p>My roommate and I have mutual friends so we were introduced and decided to dorm together the summer prior to the fall semester. We talked all summer, and I quickly realized that my living situation was going to be great. We worked together to create a very livable area, and had a lot of fun decorating the dorm. Overall, I really like my roommate. We became fast friends and realized that we have a lot in common. We get along great and I enjoy her company immensely. </p>
<p>Okay, now to the issue. My roommate has a serious boyfriend who she is with 24 hours a day. If she's not in class, attending a club meeting, or working a shift, they're together. Shouldn't really be my business, they could be a really close couple, and it's obvious that they are. Thing is, it is starting to effect me. During the school week, I won't see her four or five days at a time because she is away spending the night at his apartment. When she is here, he is along with her, and it gets very smothering. Even after she spends days at his place, he will follow her back here and stick around in our room for hours on end. He is a nice guy, don't get me wrong, but he's also kind of controlling. They will get into heated arguments about who she is talking to online, if she ate lunch without him, or what she is going to wear to school the next day. If they're not arguing in front of me, they're cuddling and kissing on her bed (NOT a prude here, it's kinda strange when I'm eight feet away)</p>
<p>He will spend the night sometimes (when he's not staying until midnight), and it gets very awkward when I have to change in and out of my pajamas and bathrobe. We already decided that it was okay to have seldom sleep-overs (I'm also seeing someone, who my roomie and her bf are friends with, but I usually visit him at his fraternity in the evenings), but he's just here too often. I feel like I'm sharing my place with him too. He tries to control the lighting, opens and closes windows, and sometimes he even stays here and surfs the 'net while she works a three hour shift. </p>
<p>I also wish my roomie and I could spend more time together. I really do value our friendship, but I feel like we can never do anything together. Her boyfriend is very uncomfortable with her going out on the town without him, and I worry that she isn't getting any girl-time with me or the other girls she is friends with. Sometimes she expresses feeling a little isolated from her girlfriends and hobbies, and that worries me a bit. </p>
<p>Any advice? Thanks Parents!</p>
<p><3,</p>
<p>Izzie Bear</p>