<p>Wanted to take a few brief moments to share my personal thoughts on an issue that perhaps other parents may be encountering (or at least considering during those late night "thinking sessions") -- how involved to be in helping your child decide upon a college and/or voicing concerns about the college selected.</p>
<p>For six months, I have allowed my child to make "the decision" -- which school was the right fit not only in terms of academics/curriculum, but in terms of environment, peers, activities...all of it. My gut from the start was saying "wrong" but given everything I heard and read about allowing your college-age student to have control...to demonstrate their decision-making capabilities...to know what is right for them, I decided to do something that went against that wonderful internal mechanism that is what parenting is all about...using your "parental gut" to guide you.</p>
<p>After periodic monitoring of situations -- everything from hearing about occasional assignments to asking about school activities -- and reaching the end of the fall semester, this parent finally returned to that navigation device of my parental gut and said enough. In less than 72 hours, a change was made and spring semester will be a new day. Is this the right decision? No way to tell. Should this decision have been made sooner? Can't look back. Have I been able to refocus on what I believe is an appropriate college that matches my child's interests, abilities, talents, and goals? You bet.</p>
<p>All this to say, for any parent/s who have read this far...if your gut is telling you "no", if your gut is saying this is the wrong place/wrong school/wrong environment...and if your gut is questioning this decision every day, go with your gut. You have raised this child successfully from infancy to this point and while we as parents certainly make our share of mistakes, you know -- deep down inside your heart -- what is right. </p>
<p>With everything that has transpired over the past six months, I can say with complete certainty that while there are risks and benefits with every decision, we as parents have the life experience and wisdom which means we say no -- even if the decision is not a popular one at the time -- to something we know is wrong. College is the first step into the real world, true, yet as I overheard a parent say, "Just because my child has turned 18 does not mean that they are fully capable of making this decision." Could not agree more.</p>
<p>I know there are parents who will disagree because every situation -- and every child -- is unique. Yet for those parents who are questioning, my heartfelt recommendation remains...go with your gut.</p>