<p>so....are your parents the one's who think you can get into the toughest colleges in the world and you feel like you might let them down or the type of parents who just don't have faith you can make it? </p>
<p>[insert angry, frustrated feelings <em>here</em>]</p>
<p>My parents are the supportive, encouraging ones that don't push me too hard. They just believe in me, but they constantly remind me that even if I don't get into the top colleges, it is ok cuz I have put my best effort. But I know so many of my friends whose parents are so coercive and demanding. It's as if the parents are trying to live their dreams through their kids. When I see my friends so stressed out by their parents, I feel so sorry for them.</p>
<p>my parents are one of those who thinks I'm going to attend HYPMS.. I don't really care about disappointing them because i know that they will be disappointed but they will also know that i will be even more disapointed.. so they will be like "don't worry, you'll be happy at X college"
So in the end, I won't be sad that they are sad. THey will be sad because I will be sad. If I'm not really sad, I'l pretend to be sad.
I don't even know if this makes sense.</p>
<p>Don't worry.. I'm having a bit of trouble with my extended family. My dad told everyone that I'm going to get into Harvard.. I will feel bad for my dad's embarrasment since I won't even be applying to H.</p>
<p>Oh well. It's my life :P</p>
<p>My parents are sort of like yours, coolness_rookie. They encourage me to try for the top colleges in the US, but ultimately they just want me to be happy. </p>
<p>Some of my friends have so much pressure put on them to get into the top universities, that they aren't able to fully enjoy life because they are so stressed out all the time, or they're worried that their parents will see them as failures.</p>
<p>Like a father of one of my friends told him that he won't even consider my friend his son if he doesn't get into top 10 colleges in US. -_-;</p>
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Like a father of one of my friends told him that he won't even consider my friend his son if he doesn't get into top 10 colleges in US. -_-;
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Wow, that's tough. </p>
<p>The irony is that in my experience, the students that push themselves to do well (pressure to do well comes from their own desires/goals, not their parents) and have the more relaxed parents, often do better in school than the kids with the super strict parents.</p>
<p>I totally agree. There is a limit to how far parents can push their kids. But of course, most parents don't realize that.</p>
<p>Like a father of one of my friends told him that he won't even consider my friend his son if he doesn't get into top 10 colleges in US. -_-; </p>
<p>I wouldn't consider that guy a father.</p>
<p>^ me too. what kind of father says that crap.</p>
<p>My parents insist that I will get into anywhere I apply to, and I'll end up at HYPSM. My dad was looking at my list and he dismissed Macalester, Bard, Middlebury, Wisconsin, and all 3 of my safeties - Loyola Chicago, George Washington, and Michigan State.</p>
<p>He told me that if I don't get into one of "these" (as he points in the USNews list to the top 40 or so) he won't pay for it.</p>
<p>They have this crappy ideology that because they're paying $18k a year for me to go to a prestigious school that their money is an instant ticket to an Ivy. I keep telling them that their money will be a good investment no matter where I go just because of what I learned there, but they can't stop thinking about Ivy league schools.</p>
<p>Wow, some of your parents are harsh... Anyway, my parents dont pressure me at all. They want me to go to a "good" college, but that is in the eye of the beholder. I probably put more pressure on myself. My parents are very aggrivating though. My parents have short tempers and I can be very combative also, so we are always arguing. Apparently any time they yell at me and I try to defend myself(because I am usually right lol) that is "talking back". Parents suck sometimes, I will be so happy when I go to college...</p>
<p>All my parents really care about right now is financial aid.</p>
<p>My parents think I'm good enough to get in wherever I want to go (except Stanford, but then again, I'm pretty pessimistic about my chances there too), but their only concern is money. Well, maybe not, because when my college counselor asked them what their biggest concern re: my college serach and admission is, they answer "him getting his stuff in on time."</p>
<p>They just keep reminding me to start my apps and such. They're pretty laid-back about the whole thing. Lucky me.</p>
<p>My parents seriously think I'm going to a community college. ****ers. I'm going to Utulsa. For free.</p>
<p>My dad is either "Get into the best college EVER or go to a community college." There is no inbetween. Ugh.</p>
<p>i agree oneiros. i'm kinda like that too though. i want to get into my top college and if i don't, well hell if i'm settling. i don't believe in that. all or nothing.</p>
<p>thanks oneiros and flapper, nice to know im not the only one in that situation</p>