<p>Mine was turned away from a top school and didn't mind at all once the other acceptances rolled in. Surely anyone applying to an Ivy realizes they are all reaches in terms of sheer numbers. With that approach, they should be able to realize it's not a failure but an event that they can deal with maturely. Anyone who has the stats to apply to an Ivy should have or learn to have the maturity to not take it personally. As a parent, I know it's hard, but I've watched mine handle it extremely well. Our attitude was to say Look at the great schools you got into. How fortunate you are to have a selection to choose from.</p>