Sorry that your parents are idiots. (kidding, I hope)
Now, that that’s out of the way, is there a way you can get your HS guidance counselor to ask to meet them in person, to review your options? If you meet with the GC first, and tell him/her what your thoughts are, they may have some idea how to help.
It is tough for parents to begin to see their kids as ever old enough or wise enough to make their own decisions and even mistakes.
Your parents have taught you how to make decisions - by getting good information from reputable sources. You should find a way to thank them for that, when you are asking them to talk about this topic.
And they have taught you that sometimes your decisions won’t match what they might have chosen. How boring life would be if our kids only ever chose what we would have chosen for them!
But you understand that college is expensive and you can’t afford to attend if you have to pay yourself. Since they are paying, how much discussion did they have before you applied?
Through all of this, you do value their opinion (not to mention their wallet), so I am curious - What exactly are they proposing for you? Community college?
Also, it is not clear why you have already rejected your safety school?
When you talk to them about this, the more that you thank them for all of their help in raising you, remind them that you know this process is really hard for all of you - you because it is your future, and them because the life they have had for the past 17-18 years is soon going to be very different. And then say something like you’re glad that they raised to to be able to think for yourself - and trying to figure out what to do means you obviously want their input. You’re glad that they are around to help you make the best decision for your situation, by getting the real facts.
You don’t want to be accusative towards them. Remind them that you want them to be proud of you, for accepting their help in learning how to make one of the most important decisions you’ve had to make - what to do next.
It can be helpful to say things like “Wow, from what I hear, it really seems like the college process is so much more complicated and competitive than it was back when you went to school - but there are some things where I have it so much easier than you guys did. I am glad you’re always on my side wanting the best for me, helping me figure this out.”
Best of luck to you.