<p>So my parents wanted to friend request me on facebook and after a long time I finally gave in. However, they soon got pretty annoying. For example, they would critique everything in my profile ("You're a republican??", "I don't think you should be listening to this music"), and also they would stalk my profile in depth, checking up my events, reading convos I was having with friends and then emailing me about this. I asked my parents if they could stop stalking my profile. They took offense to this and are now assuming that I do not want them to be involved in any way in my life now. They removed me as their facebook friend but they seem to be pretty mad and are telling me I am being disrespectful and they told me I can come home when I actually want to talk with them. How do I fix this situation? I've never been able to get along with my parents and I want them to know how I am doing but on the other hand, there is some stuff on facebook that I would like to keep private.</p>
<p>They’re throwing a hissy fit because you’ve grown up and have your own life, and they aren’t as involved as they once were. Part of it is they’re just going to have to get over it. It wouldn’t hurt, though, if you wanted to extend an olive branch by making sure to talk about whatever is going on in your life whenever you go back home.</p>
<p>Don’t re-add them on facebook, though, and if you do then put them on limited profile where they can’t see much of anything.</p>
<p>Adults are sooo mature…</p>
<p>Have you seen the parent forum of CC? You’re lucky they were only stalking you through Facebook…</p>
<p>But srsly, don’t give in. They’ll get over it.</p>
<p>the fundamental question here is…do you pay for your own tuition?</p>
<p>Yes</p>
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<li>tell them they are acting like children (which, if everything you said and i mean everything is true and not exaggerated, is true)</li>
<li>Let them know how controlling, immature, and unfounded their claims of you “being disrespectful” are</li>
<li>Brief them on facebook etiquette and norms</li>
<li>(this is what i would do) pschologically analyze them. try all lenses of psychology and see why they are acting like they are.</li>
</ul>
<p>No</p>
<ul>
<li>apologize to them</li>
<li>brief them on face etiquette and norms</li>
<li>explain “like an adult” that you have a private life which you desire to keep aware from your totalitarian parents. Remember to use tact!</li>
<li>pschologically analyze them. try all lenses of psychology and see why they are acting like they are.</li>
<li>coolly thank them for all they’ve done as great parents</li>
</ul>
<p>^ HAHA!</p>
<p>Tsk tsk tsk… That was why Mark Z created limited profile…</p>
<p>Can’t you control who sees like… virtually everything? You could just partially block them.</p>
<p>My parents dont have facebook, though I have been commissioned to inform my mom if my sister gets into trouble on hers.</p>
<p>Me too! At least you don’t have your whole goddamn family on facebook. I have all these aunts, uncles, and cousins old enough to be my parents. I add them all because I don’t want to look rude or like I’m hiding something.</p>
<p>I made a list with all my family members and then partially blocked them. None of them can see my wall or my extended info. You can make a list and then block them all from certain stuff.</p>
<p>It was so annoying with them commenting on everything I wrote. They just added me to get into my business.</p>
<p>At least you don’t have a mom asking you to review every single thing she writes on her wall :/</p>
<p>Dude, that sucks…your parents should have enough respect/trust such that they can let you be your “own” person. I do have aunt/uncle as my buddies, my sister, and a couple of my cousins. Other then that, they don’t “stalk” me like you do. Use “limited profile”–although I’m not sure how well that works. You can also block the “Recent Activity” although I’m not sure how this is possible since FB changed their privacy policy once again…Good luck! My parents ask me about xxx when I’m home and I tell them I found out through FB. My dad actually wanted to see my profile, but I told him you needed an acc and that I had to accept his friend request first…I think I would’ve ended up in a similar position to you…but I don’t think my parents are tech savy enough to know how to fully use FB HAHAH</p>
<p>This is why parents should not be allowed to use facebook.</p>
<p>That sucks. My whole family is on my facebook, but there’s nothing on my fb that my parents don’t already know about. In fact, I set up my parents’ facebooks. </p>
<p>Other than that, reilly has decent advice. </p>
<p>Best of luck!</p>
<p>I think the real shocker here is …</p>
<p>Your parents are Democrats and you’re a Republican? In college? In this current political climate (teabaggers and wingnuts)?</p>
<p>I can understand conservative, but Republican? Like I said, real shocker.</p>
<p>haha no my parents are not Democrats, they’re non affiliated with any party</p>
<p>I currently don’t have a facebook but my sibling does and she has many relatives on her list although parents/ guardians are not one of them. It probably was not best to add your parents to your profile, this may be typical in many students situation. Just talk the situation over… considering that you do communicate with your parents via phone etc… it may become understandable to them.</p>
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<p>Same exact situation here. They got a little carried away and would start liking/commenting things more than my friends I see on a daily basis and I had to put those privacy settings to good use. Some things just aren’t meant for your ENTIRE family, or even your parents to know. My mom is cool on FB and isn’t all over my profile, but I know they’re secretly judging me by what they see on facebook, heck my grandmother has even called me to ask “who was that/why did they say that/what’s that about?”. It absolutely had to end.</p>
<p>Keep your family life separate from your personal life.</p>
<p>“I made a list with all my family members and then partially blocked them. None of them can see my wall or my extended info.”
SAME.</p>
<p>hasjsddkd, from now on, IGNORE THAT SHIZ.</p>
<p>I’ve got a few family members on Facebook. My sister of course, then some cousins and aunts and uncles.</p>
<p>I’m hesitant about adding my mom, mostly because I swear a lot on Facebook (something I’ve toned down on a lot though). There aren’t any bad pictures of me though. I don’t even use Facebook that much (sounds much better than “nobody posts on my wall much”). Meh.</p>
<p>I do have lists set up, but Family members can see everything cos I figure what the hell, I don’t have anything incriminating on there.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t mind my mother being a friend unless she started liking and commenting on everything. Which she probably wouldn’t do. Eh, I’m going to college close to home now so it’s not that necessary. Once I graduate then I probably will add her.</p>
<p>Wow, your parents seem to have no life pierre0913 lol. They must be really bored. Where do they find the time for this? My dad would be lucky to sign in once a month. Most adults are sufficiently mature and have bigger duties to respond to than purposeless stalking and “internet commenting”. Most adults do not have a Facebook account to begin with.</p>