<p>I just don't know where I can reach..
I procrastinate and and bad at memorizing..
And my parents tell me about their friend's child who "almost killed themselves trying to get to Wharton". You may think that its BS but as an Asian, I believe that it might be true.
And i don't know if I can study that hard-- I want a life too</p>
<p>I feel you. My parents think that settling for less than an Ivy League school with a 2.7 GPA halfway through my junior year is “giving up on myself”. And I’m African.</p>
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<p>“And i don’t know if I can study that hard-- I want a life too”
Wow I didn’t know reasonable people used this website. Anyways just try to find a balance.</p>
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I’m African too. Which countries are your parents from? And my mom is basically Stanford or UCLA, but my dad is reasonable.</p>
<p>@BattleForLA My parents are from Nigeria. How about you?</p>
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<p>My dad is from South Africa my mom is from Ethiopia.</p>
<p>I understand, my dad cracks jokes about how we better find something to get me into Harvard, but they’re not really jokes 
Honestly, even if you didn’t have a life, you might not get in anyway. Admissions are so selective that nothing is a guarantee.</p>
<p>I’m African, too, but my parent’s are in no way like you guys. Sure, they want me to do good in school, but I don’t think they would care that much about which colleges I want to go.</p>
<p>My mom just told me go wherever I wanted but I’m not sure if she meant it.</p>
<p>My mom says that and means it.
My dad, while I love him for trying to help me, is a little disappointed after one son didn’t get into any Ivy’s and another turned to music education.
I think if I don’t get in he’ll feel like he failed as a father.</p>
<p>My mom was type to say I had to get into an Ivy league, but it would be nice if i did. but really she just wanted me to go to a good college and be a doctor. That was where I said no, had no intention of becoming a doctor. tell your parents what you want, just have them listen to you. But you have to be able to keep up your grades, and they’ll get off your case. And you don’t sacrifice your social life to get good grades, you just have to able to balance the two.</p>
<p>Dude you have a 2100 SAT for a freshman and a 4.0, calm down.</p>
<p>I understand where you’re coming from. My parents are Asian as well and my mom always comes to me about her co-worker’s sons and daughters that “never use the computer, TV, phone, etc. and study for 20 hours a day.” I don’t have it as bad as other people though. I think pressure to suceed is mainly from myself. I put a lot of my self-worth on my grades because I’m not good at anything else aha.</p>
<p>My parents like to compare me to my friends who got higher SAT scores than me. One friend got a 2100, another got a 2290. And here I am at 1920. They also get better grades and somehow have time to have fun. I have no idea how they do it and it sometimes makes me feel like crap.</p>
<p>Omg while I was reading your post I was like… MEEE TOOO ! my parents (chinese who immigrated here) are always saying "omg how come you’re so dumb why can’t you be normal ! Like my friends son got a 2380 and he cried! " im like umm I kinda have a life too…</p>
<p>Luckily, my Asian parents don’t pressure me that much. They really didn’t bother me about my SATs, but I sort of wish they did since I got a 1760. For colleges, my mom kept on telling me to apply to Barnard and BC, but I refused to. I do get pressured with school grades which can be really stressful at times.</p>
<p>Ugh, feel you. Japanese immigrant mom as well as typical asian tiger mom. It’s gotten better since I was diagnosed with ADD, but still… I’m supposed to be studying right now, after studying hard all day. And when I want to hang out with friends, I have to say we’re doing something study-related or the answers, “no, go study.”</p>