<p>I went through the grieving process last year when my daughter was rejected from a BS. So did she. We probably gained 10 pounds from eating comfort food and ginger ale in one weekend.</p>
<p>Having said that - she only applied to one school. And somehow I took the rejection as an indictment of my kid. And frankly, I was a little embarrassed because her teachers all knew, for sure that she was going to get in based on her performance in their classroom.</p>
<p>But they embraced her with open arms and wrote new recommendations this year. This year she applied to 6 schools out of 7 or 8 she researched. She was accepted by two amazing schools and waitlisted the top school in the country.</p>
<p>She filled out all her applications on her own, bugged her teachers for recommendations, made all the appointments for her interviews, hand wrote her own essays (warts and all) made a spreadsheet, etc.</p>
<p>Still - we knew there were going to be no guarantees. And we knew it would devastate us if the schools came back and said no. So I prepared her for that outcome and she said “then I’ll just stay at my current school and work on getting into Harvard.”</p>
<p>That’s the attitude that propelled her into school this second round.</p>
<p>Schools admit that a tiny percentage of kids have help on their applications. That’s why so many ask for a writing sample. Because it can show the difference between the essay and a sample the student wrote for glass (ours had to show the grade). And yes - some students also get prepped for SSAT for several years and have writing coaches. Those students also skew the test scores.</p>
<p>But I will tell you a lot of those students get rejected because the coaching becomes obvious in an interview. Schools aren’t looking for “perfect” they’re evaluating the whole resume which is why kids with less than perfect scores get into schools that have rejected some students who look more stellar on paper.</p>
<p>I would say - grieve - pig out - burn the school in effigy if you must. Then apply again and broaden your reach. OR - get on the phone and find out of any schools are still doing rolling admissions. I know one dad on the forums did just that and had good results.</p>
<p>I’m on two interview teams. Don’t take it personally. When there are thousands of applications to go through, sometimes a perfect candidate for the school doesn’t make the cut because there just isn’t enough space. It’s as gut wrenching for an admissions team to make that decision as it is for a parent to receive the news. Because admissions teams are not homogenous blobs. Each has their favorites and preferred candidates. But what do you do when you have 2000 steller applications for 150 slots?</p>
<p>In the words of Galaxy Quest (the movie) Never Give Up. Never surrendor.</p>
<p>(but do pig out. It is a helpful grief exercise)</p>