<p>This is not answering your aid question but I wanted to add that you might be surprised at the rifts that most of us have with our kids. You’re right…we don’t live in your house. It might be absolutely awful. But, even if that’s true…you need their help right now. I fight with my daughter night and day. I’m a great parent (IMO), and she’s an even better daughter - BUT…we’re all at that point in life where nature is “helping” us pull apart from each other. This was my daughter’s view of the situation…and I thought quite insightful. And, for most, it’s a TOUGH transition. As parents, we’re pretty much “done cooking” our kids, but they’re still under our roof and finances…so there are still rules to be followed and we’re tweaking those last character traits. For you - sounds VERY hard, to be sure. You have a Pop in the basement, we’ve never had one at our house. I’ve survived a lot of things in my childhood…so just tough this out, work really hard to get their help to GET this education so you can get on your own and make your own life. This is one of the last few things you’ll have to “suck up”. Good luck to ya.</p>