I have friends whose second children are going through the college admissions process right now. It’s been a rough cycle this year for a couple of them and I feel for them. I asked them how their children’s journeys are going out of interest and courtesy, and they answered honestly (even when it was clear it was painful), but I would have totally understood if they declined. We want all the good things for our kids who are smart and talented and wonderful people, so it’s hard to hear the rejections and maybes - maybe even harder to pass that along to others.