@SwimmingDad maybe we want to focus on the positives and drown out the people that feel the need to drag others down or not share…I would shout what i have learned from the roof tops to prevent another child from feeling what me and my child did over the past year. Some of this disappointment might have been avoided…but i don’t think anyone withheld anything from me or him - it has been quite the opposite and thankfully the point of all these sideline discussions…and this forum…TO HELP… I have a rising sophomore and I am confident that our next round of these college adventures will go a little bit smoother. I have been going out of my way to reach out to other parents who will be heading into their first Senior years as well to share what I have learned. Ass holes are everywhere…our best defense against them is to ignore them. Sadly there are evil people in the world that will do anything to get ahead and they all seem to sleep at night - somehow.