<p>Somehow @dharmawheel your mother does not grasp that the money will run out even with her savings, SS and paid for home because the daily rate will draw down sharply on her SS money and $60,000 savings.</p>
<p>I would NEVER allow a reverse mortgage. They are bad, bad, bad. </p>
<p>Your mother’s denial is really strong.</p>
<p>Have you tried AL again - maybe your mother will not see it as a bad alternative, or does she not meet the entry requirements for AL? From current AL rates, her savings will not be drawn down as much - if you told her the nursing home can be avoided this way but not the other way, would she reconsider?</p>
<p>I do think it is very much an eventuality that her home has to be sold - closer with drawing down her assets quickly. As others have said, it will probably also take some of her savings to fix it up for selling. Sounds like the location would make it a quick sale.</p>
<p>Your mother has used suicide threat because she does feel backed into a corner. Sad that 10 years ago she also was intent on committing suicide and almost achieved death.</p>
<p>Can you get the banking moved to convenient to you?</p>
<p>Maybe the first thing each morning you can attend to doing something toward DD2 ‘college work’ - that way you can feel good that you are giving some priority to her. Also discuss college options with her and have a plan for you two to work together efficiently and effectively.</p>
<p>Sending prayers and hugs your way.</p>
<p>You are pursuing things the best way you can. Hope you can see a good way with the situations at hand.</p>
<p>So it seems you can purchase low cost worker’s comp insurance? I know instead of an employer TIN, you can use SS#.</p>
<p>What I see may be a problem with your mother is that she likes the daily care at home irregardless of the financial consequences for herself. Maybe this is a bit tied to her mental status. Gets into Elder Care issues big time.</p>