<p>Here’s my new edits: (the ended up too long and admin wouldn’t let me put them in that post, so here is a whole post of edits:</p>
<p>WorkInProg - I had you confused with the punching desire, although perhaps you had a desire to punch the young priest? Might go to hell for that, sooo… I would be willing to “take the hit” for you! ;)</p>
<p>OutInLeft: I will punch YOUR brother for you! And yes, your post resonated SO much with me, with the rehab that worked, then the stoppage (is that a word??) and then a clear weakness, and then excuses not to stretch or do exercises… and the worries about what certain meds might be doing. My mom is the first one to blame a med for anything, as well as the first one to put stuff in a pile to “get to later”. Hey, I am a procrastinator by nature (why else would I be up at 2:40 am when I should be going to bed?) but I know that putting stuff off only PUTS STUFF OFF and doesn’t make it any easier. In fact, it makes it harder… </p>
<p>We had a neuropsych evaluation done on mom and it was enlightening to us, but mostly to her. She was surprised how bad her memory was in certain areas and had always kind of “jokingly” accused those around her for saying she’s forgetting. Now she really believes it is true. she keeps using the phrase “I’m losing my mind” or “I’m going crazy”. I want to keep her thinking positively about it and to teach her to do what current medicine thinks the best way to at least hold onto current levels of cognizance can be. Shortly after the test (and a couple little fender benders) she chose, or her own accord, to stop driving. It feels better for her to decide than for me or a doctor to decide for her. When I told sis about no more driving, first words were, “should we sell the car?” Yes, it’s practical, but the VERY first words? How 'bout, “That must be hard for mom to handle” I’d give that one a slap, maybe not quite a punch. i"m saving that for later…</p>
<p>Cormom15 - Every time I see a pic of Cornell (and my dad had plenty in his album) I get all teary and wish my son had chosen to go there. I have hope with my next son, a junior now. I would just love if one of my boys went to my dad’s school…So your dad’s dementia sound very similar to my dad’s even before this summer. Living independently, but not really. And the getting overwhelmed. I see that in mom, and saw it in dad after we were allowed to start helping him look around his office at all the stacks and piles and late bills. That was getting new for him and worrying him. Until his first rehab, they had each other, but two people with early dementia don’t necessarily make good decisions… It seemed to be a bad decision that started it all…</p>
<p>If you are worried about dad and his abiltiy to live at home independently, I would re-recommend the neuropsych test for him. You can couch it in a need for a baseline, you know, for your journal! It’s important with our parents to phrase things just right that we are not lying to them, but may be explaining what needs to be done in a way that they will accept and they they believe is better for them…</p>
<p>OH, just thought of this quote: “I’m now the friendly nagger/encourager – eating, drinking water, exercising – and she varies between receptive and evasive.” SOOOOO familiar with mom. Unfortunately I found that my pleasantness devolves and I become more of a just all around nag. Friendly nagging went out the door. Remember, I have that darned 17 year old going of to Duke next year who thinks he’s all that… I will post our new plans in a new post so this one does not need chapters… ;)</p>