<p>Hi to all my fellow caretakers! All this conversation of hospice reminds me that I haven’t checked in since my father was released from the hospital (after his possible stroke) on Easter Sunday. We realized once we got him home that his condition had really deteriorated and we needed some outside advice. The hospital sent over one of their social workers to talk about our options. Our biggest fear was that he’d have another crisis and we’d have to go through hospitalization all over again. As you remember, his primary care physician and his neurologist are practically worthless and we didn’t want to have to beg and plead for their attention any longer.</p>
<p>So…in a nutshell, the best option for dad is to be on hospice care at home. He’s in end-stage Parkinsons and there’s no chance he’ll improve. There won’t be any more frantic trips to the hospital. We already had 24 hour care (via long term care insurance), but now he has an aide come in Monday-Friday for 1 1/2 hours to clean him up. A hospice nurse comes twice a week to check him out. Best of all, they found us a new primary care doctor who specializes in hospice care and makes a house call every other week. We also can call the hospice people at any time. We’ve taken him off all unnecessary
medications. </p>
<p>Dad is fading, but he’s comfortable. He sleeps a lot. He can’t eat much solid food. We don’t think he is able to read any longer. (A month ago, he was reading 4 newspapers a day). His speech is often garbled. In his living will, he specified that he did not want to die in a hospital, so we feel we are honoring his wishes. Honestly, I’m surprised he’s still with us. Dad is a feisty, vicious competitor; I’m sure he’s hanging on until he’s convinced that he’s won the battle.</p>