<p>Will you indulge me while I have a short pity party?</p>
<p>My brother and various members of his family come to stay with us about every six weeks, mostly for the purpose of visiting my parents who live in AL nearby (although I like to think it’s also partly to see us). This weekend, Bro and his oldest son – a rising sophomore at Georgetown – are here. </p>
<p>Tonight we had dinner with my parents, and then looked at about 200 pictures which Bro had brought, mostly of his family but also a few of my family including my D. D has been at her obscure LAC for 4 years (one more semester to go). I have always had the feeling that her college choice was a distinct disappointment to my father, in fact a downright failure in his eyes.</p>
<p>During dinner and while sitting around the table after, my dad must have used the word “Georgetown” 10 times, completely unprompted (Bro and Nephew aren’t ones to brag about it, and never brought up the subject themselves). While looking at the pictures, every pic of Nephew at school brought some comment from Dad like, “Right, he goes to Georgetown.”</p>
<p>Dad regularly asks me, “Where is L?” When I tell him she’s at college, he always asks, “Where does she go to college?” Until tonight, I’d assumed that this was because of his failing memory. Now I know that it’s because her school isn’t worth remembering.</p>
<p>But it got worse. When we were looking at the pics, he’d say, “There’s Nephew at Georgetown.” But almost every picture of D prompted the question, “Who’s that?” It seems that SHE is not worth remembering. :(</p>
<p>I have a great relationship with my brother, and I very much like and enjoy my nephew. I wouldn’t dream of saying anything about this to them, and my father’s educational snobbery isn’t their fault after all. But I had to tell someone, because it hurts, and who better than my fellow sandwich-generation sufferers?</p>