<p>My mantra is “we’re all just doing the best we can”. I think that to myself when I start to second-guess my decisions, and I think that of others when I get frustrated and feel that they could be doing more. Everyone is doing the best they can.</p>
<p>somemom I really liked your epiphany.</p>
<p>esobay you’re doing so much, hang in there.</p>
<p>ECmotherx2 that sounds very scary to think of your MIL leaving your FIL on the floor for hours.</p>
<p>Montegut - editing the photos in the slide show, really? who has time for that with everything else going on?</p>
<p>HImom it sounds like your mom is getting a lot of benefit from the PT.</p>
<p>mommusic, nice :)</p>
<p>GTAlum and rockymtnhigh remember that POA, regardless of who is named, ends at death. It’s fine while it lasts, but you’ll need to have an executor named and either a will or (best case) a trust set up as well.</p>
<p>PhotoOp you sound like you have so much on your plate. Congrats to your daughter.</p>
<p>fourkidsmom welcome to the thread.</p>
<p>My elderly friend is still in the dementia unit where she was moved after she was found wandering in the parking lot. She does get lost on occasion, but in talking to her on the phone it seems that she’s back to her usual self in many other ways. I think she’s almost completely rebounded from her stroke and her 3 days on the floor. I’d like to see her moved back into AL, not in the least because it would save $1500/month and she’s going to rapidly deplete her meager savings if she stays in the dementia unit. I worry about what will happen to her once her money is gone. So far, moving her closer to my family will be even more expensive than where she is now. My parents visited her town last month and my sister will be there next week. I don’t have any plans to go back but feel like I should do so in the next couple of months.</p>
<p>My MIL passed away and we spend last weekend on the East Coast for her burial and to clean out her nursing home room & storage unit. We went through boxes and boxes of papers - tax returns from the 1950s, newspaper clippings, scrapbook items that somehow never made it into scrapbooks, old photo albums, DH’s grade school reports cards…it seemed unending, but we got through it all with BIL’s help. Now I’m dealing with all the probate paperwork. DH is Executor, and the attorneys’ rates are $250-350/hour. MIL would never agree to change her accounts to Transfer on Death, and BIL would never agree to distributing some of the (ample) estate before death, so we’re paying hefty estate taxes to the state along with the probate fee. One of the accounts was escheated simply because no one was paying attention. I’m doing what I can to fill out forms and gather information in order to minimize attorney fees, with DH’s blessing, but all of this could have been handled so much better. I was late to this family, have only been married to DH for 4 years, so I could only carefully urge DH to do some minimal estate planning and then shut up and let him take it from there.</p>
<p>Everyone did the best they could…(taking deep breath).</p>
<p>I don’t want to inflict any of this on my sons, so I’m attacking my file cabinets with renewed vigor and am making time to finally transfer title of our house into our joint trust.</p>