The daughter is probably a SAHM/grown children, while the brother is still working. Can the brother get his wife to care for the mom at home (if his wife is SAHM/grown children)? I do think the mom was living in some kind of independent living and maybe her own home still. I know the daughter wanted the mom to stay at rehab but the brother used the line “mom doesn’t want to stay there, and we shouldn’t make her stay there”. I did try to converse with the brother on the phone, but in a way he was like my own brother who often caved to our mother inappropriately.
Families ‘struggle’ when it comes to troubling and disruptive medical situations. Some elderly parents revert to child and sometimes it is more clear cut on how to handle. Family ‘dynamics’. I have seen where a son is married to a gem of a wife who goes well beyond what anyone would expect, but that sadly is often not the norm. Some ‘sandwich generation’ are needing to be involved with their own family, have demanding jobs that they cannot afford to lose, may have grandchildren responsibilities…
Our facility has return patients out of their choice, return families selecting our facility again. However it is not ‘home’.