@mompop, I am so glad for you, and your dad, to read about that improvement. How great that your Dad noticed! Your story suggests patience! We are persisting with gabapentin this week. I have noticed an increase in appetite (my mother has lost 35 pounds from not eating) but agitation continues especially late afternoon.
Anemia is improved so that is not an explanation for being in bed. I actually think she had uterine bleeding and lying still in bed may have stabilized it.
An aide told me there was a possible opening in memory care, so I emailed an administrator and again asked. My mother is now the one and only person on the waiting list. The admin said he would know yesterday but since I have not heard, someone else who previously committed is trying to decide.
Every time I go in there, the aide and sometimes the nurse say âThank God you are here.â She calls me up to 35 times (her cell broke so these have stopped as of Friday), calls the front desk (10 times in 30 minutes, because she only knows how to press 0) and presses the emergency button over and over and over. The nurse did a video that is so pitiful, of her going out in the hallway looking for me or help, pale, breathless, confused and agitated.
I am in NYC for a few days helping one of my kids move. Calls from my mother are less frequent because she dials â0â and desk person connects us, but are angry and outraged in tone. âI donât understand why I am not allowed to talk to my daughter.â type of thing. Then I say âI am your daughter.â
She obsesses about âgoing homeâ (she has been in AL for 7 years) and driving home to get her clothes. She claims to have lived in an apartment across from a nearby mall, and invented a 5th child, a daughter with the same name as me but a double-?! She obsessed about getting a fictitious car that she thinks has been parked for a month in a nearby town. These circles of thinking go on and on until she gets her sleep meds.
I have not gone away this long since all this started. Four days! I was going to hire someone but the phenomenal volunteer from hospice went yesterday and is going today, and the nurse from hospice and AL staff are aware. I asked them to remind her where I am because her agitation is worse without knowing. Originally I was going to say I was sick. No matter, she cannot hear me on the phone so I had to ask staff to explain my absence.
Fingers crossed for memory care opening! @mompop hope the improvement continues. Let us know!