Parents Disappointed: Will not talk to me

It is not “solely” associated with them. It just so happens the OP describes himself as being from an immigrant family and describes his parents as having that set of beliefs.

And if other non-immigrant, “upper middle class WASPs” have that same attitude, so what? They are equally wrong and out of line. Bad behavior is bad behavior whether your ancestors came over on the Mayflower or whether you came over six months ago.