I don’t think that’s what people are saying at all. I think they said the situation wasn’t unheard of on CC, so they had reason to believe OPs version of events. Nobody said only immigrant families behave this way or that it only happens among low income families. I mentioned boyfriends in a previous post but this behavior could be exhibited by anyone of any income level, and it doesn’t have occur as a result a disagreement over college either. But none of that is relevant to OP’s situation, so we didn’t address it.