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know some of you utterly despise the “new immigrants” who choose to believe Ivies are the best colleges, but have you ever said to your kid "You should’ve put in a few more hours into the practice.
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“Utterly despise”. Lol
Anyway…telling a child that they should have “studied more” or “practiced more” when the child didn’t do well is different from saying such things when the child did very well, but came up short (in the parents’ minds).
Back to the “utterly despise”. I don’t think people here are haters, but I think some of us wish that some leader in their communities would explain how harmful this Ivy Obsession is.
The same parents who are berating their kids for “coming up short,” likely would not have gotten into these same schools themselves if instead, they had been the applicants.
There seems to be a blurring of boundaries that doesn’t respect that these children are not property or extensions of themselves.