<p>I think there are too many idle useless parents reading these forums which have nothing to do with their lives. Seriously parents get a life. Stop obsessing over your kid, or worse: stop reading children’s responses as a single middle-aged adult thinking of the past, and then posting your dimwitted and annoying responses…</p>
<p>ouch. that is harsh, and uncalled for. some of the best resources for info, as well as moral support, are parents. if u dont like what some of them say, well, thats ur problem- yes, some of them might get a little obsessive, and it would be definitely weird if my parents spent time on these boards, but overall i very much appreciate what many of them have to say.</p>
<p>Though I think you were unnecessarily harsh and perhaps too blunt, I seriously don't quite get why parents are on this board, either. Some of them remind me of overzealous soccer moms and dads, and it's a little disturbing. I wouldn't let my parents anywhere near my applications or my list of schools, because I knew if I did I'd lose all control and say over my education. I seriously don't get why they're here all over the place, unless one of them would care to enlighten me on a reason not drowning in rhetoric...</p>
<p>Many parents are alumni of schools that we wish we could be attending. They have the lives we wish we were living. If they aren't clogging the board and pre-empting us from posting, why hate?</p>
<p>I personally did not let my parents have anything to do w/ my college choice or app
if i did, id be at uiuc or duke</p>
<p>Liquid-</p>
<p>There are certainly more students on the parents forum than parents on the student's forums. There are many (most) students on here that are mature enough to really not mind adult interaction. Also, many parents find that they learn from the students (applicants). My own son doesn't use CC, but has certainly appreciated the advice I pass along from spending time here. And, since has was admitted ED, I can say the time was well spent. </p>
<p>I'm not sure why you're so angry, but you might want to check it at the door. It's not going to help you with admissions or anything else in life.</p>
<p>i appreciate parent insight, actually
(you know, as long as it's not my parents)
parents who have already gone through this process and aren't too insane might actually know something we don't</p>
<p>momsdream: get a life lady. I'm assuming you're a housewife?</p>
<p>You are the perfect example for my views:
Nobody needs you to argue against kids about the
moralities of affirmative action.</p>
<p>Frankly, your time spent here is a waste. My point is that
these topics don't deal with your life, if your son is interested he should
read and discuss college himself.
Concidentally, The Wall Street Journal published an article today
detailing young adults' (college students, graduates, 20-somethings) aging dependency on parents. It goes on to discuss UChicago surveys on a
new "age for adulthood," set at 26. It has supposedly gotten so out of hand that colleges have started to seperate information sessions between parents and students so that the parents don't "ask all the opinions and give all the comments on behlaf of their children."
I can imagine your son being similar to a particular college graduate
who according to Wall Street, had emailed his parents every college paper he wrote so that they could check and correct it on his behalf!
Your over-bearing isn't helping your son; and no, he didn't get in because of your advice.</p>
<p>"I'm not sure why you're so angry, but you might want to check it at the door. It's not going to help you with admissions or anything else in life."</p>
<p>lady I'm not angry at you. I don't even know you. It's just a sad sight to see you here, and I felt I had to remark on it.</p>
<p>lol. I'm going to take life advice from a housewife.</p>
<p>If you de-angried your posts and made them less potentially insulting, i'm sure mommy would more readily take your points under consideration.</p>
<p>My parents played absolutely <em>no</em> part in my college process.</p>
<p>looks like liquidusfox is just ****ed off at himself</p>
<p>jeez stonedpandas is right. if you calmed down and werent so insulting, your points would be taken much better. </p>
<p>also, theres no need to malign "housewives" and imply that they have no valid opinions. homemakers are a valuable part of society, and studies have shown that families with one stay at home parent are much more stable and their children are much less likely to use drugs or commit crimes. to imply that one is a failure for being a homemaker is an insult to millions of people. </p>
<p>the fact that you have an 18, a 16, and now a 20 year old pointing out problems with your approach rather than siding with you should show just how off you are here.</p>
<p>Hate to tell you, liquidusfox, but many of the parents on this forum are professionals and work full-time. The retired or working at home parents are very intelligent and have a lot to contribute.<br>
I think the goal for many of the parents is to learn from the kids who post and help when they can.</p>
<p>As a parent I welcome the input from kids. Some kids feel the same way about the parents. If you don't want to read someones posts, there is a mechanism that you can us on this forum to block them out. Why deprive someone else who might not feel the way you do? I suggest you do this to your unfavorite posters. Or better yet, you can just select the posters who are your favorites as there is a way to do this as well.</p>
<p>My kids and his friends seem to think that the kids who post here regularly are the kooks with no life. They can't imagine why kids their age with so much to do, so much fun to have would be posting on a forum where their middle aged mother spends so much time!</p>
<p>LOL Liquid....housewife? Now we're getting to the core of your issues.....which obviously extend well beyond anger about parents on this forum. I am not a housewife (homemaker is the more current term). But, if I was, I still wouldn't feel insulted by your comments - to northram's point. I wish I had the talent to be a homemaker - but I'm too competitive and impatient to stay home with children...I admire those who do it well.</p>
<p>Your attempts to engage me by insulting my son show just how desperate you are for attention - any kind - including negative. No, my son won't be like those in the article. Trust me, he's more independent that 90% of people his age - even completing much of his college visiting on his own - traveling alone. He's not going to come here and ask questions because he frankly isn't that stressed over and it's just not his personality. I think he was a little over-confident early on...but he eventually sobered up and realized that this was a tough game. He told me a year ago that he would get into a good school and that I should "chill". I'm a worrier - he's not. He's confident and relaxed about this whole thing....and only got excited when he was accepted because he didn't have to do more apps. Believe me, he wanted to attend Penn. But, if he had been deferred...he would have taken it in stride and probably been more upset about doing more apps and spending less time with his GF and the gym than anything else. </p>
<p>I got involved in this process out of curiousity and interest - not need. And, as one of the leaders of a national youth organization and a mentor to hundreds of youth, I'm happy to engage with bright, talented teens who are so vested in their futures (the kids on CC). I'm also compelled to engage in the AA discussion because I'm tired of hearing black teens upset about the negative stereotype being played about why they were accepted into this or that college (had you been here last spring you would have read my post about a meeting I attended where several black teen females broke down into angry tears after seeing how their classmates reacted to their college acceptances). I'm so moved by the issue that I'm hosting a forum on the topic and have invited adcoms from several top schools to attend - including Penn. They have all accepted the invitation and are familiar with my org. So that's why I'm here. I hope that helps you feel more relaxed. Though, I doubt it.</p>
<p>I don't need to defend being here. I'm currently interested in this process and the discussions of the teens who are going through it. A year ago, I had never heard of CC. And a year from now, I'll probably be onto somthing else - another project - youth related I'm sure. But, for now, I'm interested. I'm not sure why you care so much....but I thank you for your concern. </p>
<p>And on the middle aged comment...I'm in my mid 30s. I'm rather young for a CC parent...and no, I'm not single.</p>
<p>jamimom & momsdream -- your input is welcomed by many of us!</p>
<p>Liquidis, I don't know if that outburst had anything to do with the question I posted on <em>your</em> forum asking about how students spent their summer vacations, but if so, I can promise I was just gathering information, not planning to become your roommate at college.</p>
<p>Thank you happy.</p>
<p>Oh yeah, and one more thing. You have only 9 paltry posts. That means ur either a newbie or a lurker. If its the former, then you have no right to even be talking, cause you dont know much about this site at this point. If its the latter, then you're not a contributer to the boards, so I dont think you should be criticizing others about it. Maybe a senior member would be taken more seriously, but you just dont have the leverage to back up this kind of stuff yet.</p>
<p>Liquidus - Here's something you can learn and take to college:</p>
<p>STOP BASHING PEOPLE YOU DONT EVEN KNOW!</p>
<p>First of all, you're a new member, having no experience on these boards whatsoever. You dont even know what these boards are meant for. If you think these boards are meant to BASH others, then get a life. Do it somewhere else. </p>
<p>And second, if you want to be a mature citizen of this country, then learn to respect the opinions of others. This will help you later on in life, when you will face people that are totally opposite in personality to you. This way, you will make more friends, in college, and in the rest of your life. </p>
<p>Hope you learned something new...</p>
<p>I appreciate all of the opinions of the parents on this board. I'm one of the CC'ers who regulary read the threads on the Parents Forum because their ideas are from different perspectives that I consider helpful. Most of the times, parents are the ones who are willing to give long, detailed advice on a specific college since they have either attended the colleges, have children who are attending or have graduated, or have actually visited them, not their children who are too consumed by colleges and academics. I'm thankful that momsdream, TheDad, and others are willing to take time out of their busy lives to help out at CC.</p>