<p>So, I occasionally lurk here and because I am having some "issues" with my parents I thought maybe I should come here, rather then to my peers, for advice. </p>
<p>First a little background: I'm a good student, am pretty much the top of my class, have a steady job, take extra college courses, and spend most of my leftover time working in one of various county and statewide leadership positions. I'm a good kid... there's no disagreement there. For as far back as I can remember, my parents and I don't really have a traditional relationship. I do what I want, I don't ask permission, and they just expect that I make the right choices. So with college admissions, I visited various schools over the summer(mostly by myself or with friends) and choose to apply to the following: Univ of Delaware, Univ of Maryland, Univ of South Carolina, Univ of Miami, Syracuse, Northeastern, Embry Riddle, Lehigh, Lafayette, and Smith... all of which were done on my own and for the most part without my parents knowledge. Aside from a few dinner discussions along the lines of "How's your college search going?", "Oh, good. I think I'm going to apply to....", "That sounds great!". </p>
<p>The problem: Now that my acceptances are rolling in and I'm expressing my desire to attend a private larger LAC type school, I find out that they really don't agree with this. So, I'm like "Oh, thanks for letting me know after the fact!"</p>
<p>Of the schools I've been accepted at they see that my choices are as follows: UMD honors(at ~$15K tuition and room/board), USC(at ~$10K tuition and r/b), and UDel(cost to be determined... if I get accepted, which I assume I will). Why? Because they see all the rest of the schools I applied to as too "elitist". How can I argue with this? I mean, from their point of view anybody that pays $40K a year for school is A) ignorant or B)elitist. I argue about class sizes, professor accessibility, sense of community, more individualized education, etc and they say that all can be found at a state school at a MUCH(always emphasized) lower cost. </p>
<p>Because cost seems to be the root of all evil around here, I feel like I should give you some insight into that as well. We've got plenty of money... my sister is on a full ride and I'm the only other child. Both my parents are full time professionals who make great salaries yet they are VERY thrifty. Our EFC was way out of the range of any need based aid and to be honest, my scores just aren't great enough to qualify for significant merit based aid. I've been getting about 10K from my $40K schools but this just isn't enough, in their eyes. They say they'll pay for wherever but will be "disappointed" if I make "the wrong decision." </p>
<p>So, now that March is here, April is soon approaching, and May is just plain too close, and I'm at a loss as to how to reasonably discuss things with them... </p>
<p>Any insight?</p>
<p>I mean, am I being unreasonable? I know its alot of money but I feel as though if they wanted to play a role in my college decision maybe they should have started a bit earlier in the process. I would have applied to different schools if I had known that they were completely unsupportive of the schools I was interested in. </p>
<p>Thoughts?</p>