<p>D is going to get her teaching credential which is an additional year. Not sure if she will come home and do it or stay where she is at. Likely she will come home since this is where she would eventually like to live. She had a serious BF in high school who went to school 3000 miles away, they are still quite friendly so if they ever get back in the same time zone it would be interesting to see if they get back together.</p>
<p>After a year away doing study abroad, S is feeling almost like he’s starting again since half the faces he’ll see when he returns to school weren’t there when he left. He’ll be graduating at the end of the year with honors, but hasn’t yet nailed down either a topic or advisor for his thesis. Before he left for study abroad, his only question was whether he’d do grad. school immediately after college or after spending some more time in Asia. Now, he’s decided he wants to work for awhile (although he’s not sure what he wants to be doing or even which country he wants to be in) and reconsider what he really wants to end up doing. Sounds developmentally appropriate to me!</p>
<p>My S flew back to campus last Thursday and will start classes on Monday (quarter system). He didn’t want to go! He spent a month with us after working 3 jobs for 10 weeks, including doing research for a professor. He had such a great time here and didn’t feel like facing what will be another intense year, even though he is a senior. He’s figuring out what he wants to do his honors thesis about, working as a peer tutor (paid) and has a leadership in an EC (director of the editorial board of the student newspaper) - in addition to a full class load. He could graduate after fall quarter, but we are encouraging (requiring!) him to do the whole year.</p>
<p>He rented a car for the first time yesterday, and that seems to me like such a grown-up thing to do. He needed to move his things from where they were this summer to his dorm (95% of students live on campus all 4 years). So he’s settled in his room - his first single, which he wanted so badly. His girlfriend is in the same dorm. Things are shaping up for him, and I trust that he will have a great year. No clue about what will be happening after he graduates. He’ll take advantage of the university’s program to help students find jobs, will interview for whatever sounds good. Fingers crossed!</p>
<p>Got a call from D that she received a nice job offer from a consulting firm. They want a reply by the end of the month. She has several more interviews with other companies lined up, but is facing the difficult decision - take the high paying offer in this economy (with a large signing bonus, WTH?) or weigh that against positions that may be more specifically what she is interested in. Tough for a 21 year old, although she is considering grad school in a few years, so she can look at it as a shorter term experience. I think she is leaning toward accepting it.</p>
<p>congrats, mambear!!
I believe that your dau can ask for an extension without any penalty. When my older s was job hunting, several companies tried to offer what are known as “exploding job offers” (short time limit and then they blow up). The companies are not supposed to do this. There was some policy he was able to cite. Let me see if I can find it.</p>
<p>Here ya go. Check the site to see if the quote is current (its from an old post I found)
[NACE:</a> Home](<a href=“NACE - Page not found”>Redirect Page)</p>
<p>“Job offer policy
A few employers have resorted to using exploding offers, a recruiting tactic which neither serves the best interests of the students nor that of the employer. An exploding offer requires a student to choose a job offer within a very short amount of time or face having the offer rescinded. Exploding salary bonuses, even after the minimum deadlines, are not allowed.
In order to give students enough time to make an informed and thoughtful decision, please give students the following minimum deadlines when accepting an offer:
Fall Quarter: 3 weeks minimum response time, from receipt of the written offer
Winter Quarter: 3 weeks minimum response time, from receipt of the written offer
Spring Quarter: 2 weeks minimum response time, from receipt of the written offer
Summer Quarter: If you would like to make an offer of full-time employment to a student at the end of a summer internship, the student has until November 30th to accept*.
*Please keep in mind, many students will not have gone through the full recruiting process prior to their summer internship.
All employers who participate in any of the CDC’s recruiting programs are required to work within guidelines established by the National Association of Colleges & Employers (NACE). These guidelines can be found in the document Principles for Professional Conduct.”</p>
<p>If the offer came through on campus recruiting, the deadline for the exploding offer is most likely as specified by the college. If a company wants to recruit on campus, they agree to these terms with the college. The dates do vary by school. My S’s school deadline is Nov. 1.</p>
<p>Hopefuly that is true, jrpar, but back in the days of a strong economy, older s found that companies were conveniently forgetting the policy. Its also possible that whoever is makign the offer may not be familiar with the NACE policies. But asking for an extension was always successful. Its a perfectly reasonable thing to do.</p>
<p>Interesting. Thanks for the information. This is a large company with great benefits, they recruit heavily at her school, and I would bet they are following the rules. I will mention to her she could ask about an extension.</p>
<p>mamabear: Congratulations! What great news!</p>
<p>Congratulations to your D, mamabear.</p>
<p>Let me add my congrats to your D, mamabear. :)</p>
<p>Congratulations from another 2012 mom. Did college happen fast, or is it just me?</p>
<p>Yes, Geezermom, college went really fast!</p>
<p>Congratulations to Mamabear. I hope that your D can get an extension, but how nice to have an offer this early. My D is in the midst of applying for consulting jobs also, and she’s very stressed.</p>
<p>Bookmarked. Yes, it went fast!</p>
<p>Flew by for us too, especially after the 2nd year was over. 3rd year he was overseas for a quarter and that year flew even faster. No we’re all stressing about job interviews so of which have not gone so well. Competition is intense and certain sectors like banking seem to be contracting. It hope that this too shall pass.</p>
<p>S2 has a job offer from the non-profit where he’s been interning for almost 2 years. He told us over the summer that they told him they’d hire him, but I didn’t want to post anything until it was definite. Unfortunately, S2 never bothered to talk to them about salary until yesterday and now found out that although he’ll be making more than they usually pay new graduates, it’s not as much as he was hoping for. </p>
<p>Since he graduates in Dec, he’ll probably take this job for now & keep looking. DH & I have been suggesting to him that he keep looking for a job since the summer, but what do we know. Now he’ll be starting a new job search much later than he should have. The one positive is that his boss has said she’d provide him with excellent recommendations &, if she knew people where he was applying, that she’d advocate for him. She really seemed to indicate to him that he was worth more than what she could pay him, but that their budget was tight.</p>
<p>Now he also needs to find an apartment/shared housing in the city where he’s been going to school that he can afford on what he’ll be making. Needless to say, this has been a more stressful semester for him than he expected.</p>
<p>DD will graduate undergrad this year and is considering Law School depending on her LSAT scores. It is something she has always wanted to do, and now with the legal jobs market being in such shambles it is a scarey thought. She has an opportunity to do a free year of grad school at her undergrad U so who knows, maybe she will take advantage of that. So many possibilities, it is back to senior year in HS when it all depends on what scores come in and what schools she gets accepted to. </p>
<p>I just went through DS college launch this year, so out of the frying pan and into the fire for me! I feel like I am back to square one 
Of course the big difference is she is totally the driving force on this one. There really is nothing for me to do except watch what happens and hope she makes the right choice.</p>
<p>"I just went through DS college launch this year, so out of the frying pan and into the fire for me! I feel like I am back to square one Of course the big difference is she is totally the driving force on this one. There really is nothing for me to do except watch what happens and hope she makes the right choice. "</p>
<p>Ditto, except for the law school/grad school thoughts. I’m not thinking that’s a good idea for D at this point, and she doesn’t seem to either,</p>
<p>Weirdly, freshmen son is ALREADY thinking grad school, and he was NOT the “good” high school student D was.</p>
<p>I’ve been involved in online discussions with young women just finishing up their grad school time. They all point out that academic graduate school, even when paid for, does not seem to create skills that are recognized as transferable if one wants to change fields. Or, which is more difficult, if one has to change fields because one can’t find a job in the academic world. So that “no-risk” grad school year is actually riskier than we imagine.</p>