<p>So sorry, Consolation! (((Hugs)))</p>
<p>It’s so frustrating when there’s nothing you can do to help and so awful when you can’t make your children feel better.</p>
<p>I’m really sorry to hear that, Consolation. It’s tough to be conscientious about the search, make all the right moves, and not get the job. It’s also hard for us as parents not to feel the sting of their rejections.</p>
<p>I’m getting anxious about S’s return to the nest. In his room, for no particular reason, he has a beautiful boomerang from New Zealand hanging on the wall, with a horseshoe hanging below it. Is that great symbolism, or what?</p>
<p>In addition, a BIL who has lost his house through foreclosure is going to be moving in with us shortly. Possibly permanently.</p>
<p>And my job is being replaced through restructuring in June. Because of a screw-up in the way the job was posted, I was deemed ineligible to apply (after actually applying) despite being personally asked to do so by the person who would be my supervisor, general performance accolades, being told I was a shoo-in, etc. And their method of informing me–after a month of waiting–was to send me a form letter with a box checked off. And they proceeded to hire a person who currently reports to me, who thought she was applying for a job as my assistant rather than my replacement. I alternate between rage and tears.</p>
<p>Just a family of rejects. </p>
<p>I should probably have posted this on the “get it off your chest” thread. :(</p>
<p>@mamabear</p>
<p>I have an older D, but she’s in medical school so the posts you’ve read on the specific U thread are all in reference to D2. If you have any questions about the school, feel free to PM me.</p>
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<p>D2 has been working on her research project since January of her sophomore year. And it reads/looks more like a Master’s thesis than an undergrad one. (Her PI has hopes of taking the data and writing a journal article based on it.) Additionally, D2 will be third author (after the lab’s 2 PIs) on another paper which is in revision now. Potentially she will have 4 publication credits by the end of the year.</p>
<p>She has decided though that she definitely doesn’t want a Ph.D.-level research career. She’ll take her MCAT in January.</p>
<p>Consolation: I’m really sorry to hear about all the bad luck your family is having. I hope things turn around soon.</p>
<p>Packmom: Sorry that your son hasn’t landed a summer internship yet. He’s in a really tough position.</p>
<p>Welcome Joix. Jump right in.</p>
<p>My D is enjoying her last semester. Last semester was tough. She finished her thesis and was very lucky to land a job for next fall.</p>
<p>Consolation: Hopefully things will turn around soon!!</p>
<p>Joix: Welcome!</p>
<p>Still trying to figure out what to do for a Graduation party invitation. D1 did not get graduation pictures done. We tried a photocard invitation, with various pictures from her years in college, but the majority of the pictures are from “themed” parties she has gone to so I don’t know how appropriate it is. </p>
<p>Graduation is 6pm on May 19th. Procession starts at 5:30, graduate needs to be there at least 45 min early. It is supposed to last 2 hours. No word on whether the Math Department has any sort of reception. Trying to figure out if we should do a lunch prior to graduation or what. We will have a party the following weekend at our house.</p>
<p>Bless your heart, Consolation. None of this bad luck is your fault, and you are not “a family of rejects” (even if it feels that way).</p>
<p>Consolation: Your family is due for some good luck soon. Hang in there.</p>
<p>Packmom: Holding a good thought that your S gets an internship soon.</p>
<p>S graduates May 20. Got hotel reservations last May as soon as we could book them. Have a weekend planned with family who will be coming in from west coast and NJ. The biggest problem I have had is the size of our group (12). Very hard to find reservations for that many.</p>
<p>Hope everyone is still checking this thread. Consolation: will keep your family in our thoughts for many positive changes-am so sorry you are having to endure this.</p>
<p>Is anyone having their senior call home in total panic from either work over load, anxiety about grades, or life in general? Both of our kids are having what seems to be the worse semester of their entire 4 years ( kids who make good grades and frequently on the Dean’s List). apparently, there is an enormous load of papers, projects, and professors with increasingly demanding personalities. Our two have been stressed before with work load, but this is WAY above what I have seen in the past. Also realize both are very concerned about the future, e.g. jobs. Son has had 3 phone interviews, not making it to the in person round and waiting to hear from an actual interview. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.</p>
<p>My S is enjoying his classes (chose interesting courses he didn’t want to miss before leaving college) and is pleased with his grades. He’s also working more hours, so his schedule is very busy. But otherwise he seems scattered and kind of paralyzed. Friends have said their seniors are the same way. They’re in that limbo between college and life. College friendships are major for many people, and they’re leaving those behind. And then there’s the uncertainty of the job search.</p>
<p>As for advice, he’s my only child, so as with all the other milestones in his life, this one is both a first and a last. But I guess like most parents, I have been more detached from his college experience than from high school and earlier. For him, this is very big deal. Maybe parents with older kids can give us some tips!</p>
<p>Last semester was very difficult for D1, and when she came home from break she looked warn out. I think her most difficult math courses were last semester. SHe was very cranky all Winter Break while filling out applications and jumping through the necessary hoops for teaching credential programs (TB tests, fingerprint clearance, etc…). She only needed 8 units to graduate, but is taking 12 units (including rock climbing). Generally she took at least 16 or 17 units, so this is her easiest semester for all 4 years. So she actually is very good right this minute.</p>
<p>D is taking more credits than usual this quarter because she needs enough credits to sit for her CPA exam this summer. Despite the extra work load, I haven’t heard much complaining - it could be because some of those extra classes are “fun” classes (like geezermom said, they’re interesting classes she wanted to take), or it could be because she has new BF close by to whom she can do the bulk of her complaining. (Her old BF was long-distance, and as a result I got a lot of phone calls full of bad news and venting that a BF might otherwise get.)</p>
<p>I am starting to hear rumbling complaints about that CPA exam, but right now it’s like distant thunder…</p>
<p>S was more stressed in the fall semester with the travel. This semester is the lightest load since Freshman fall. That said, he has his capstone project and is taking one final required course. In addition to that he decided he would take one of the hardest CS courses “just for the fun of it”. Luckily he is able to take that one pass/fail. He is still a bit stressed since he really only has about 3 weeks of classes left.</p>
<p>Another one late to the table; I cannot believe we’re almost at the end of this journey. This summer the nest will truly be empty. :(</p>
<p>Great news here…S2 called today to say he got the summer internship he interviewed for last week!<br>
What a relief. We’ve been on pins and needles the whole semester. It’s a graduation requirement. No internship…no diploma…so yay…I’ve been doing the happy dance all afternoon! Graduation day (May 4) will really be a celebration now.</p>
<p>That’s fantastic news Packmom! It must be such a relief. I’m so glad that you can enjoy graduation now.</p>
<p>Hallelujah, PackMom! :D</p>
<p>How great for your son and your family, PackMom. Now graduation can truly be celebrated.</p>
<p>Congratulations!</p>