<p>OMG, packmom. That is horrible. Such a loss for a young adult to have to take. So sorry for you and your family.</p>
<p>Oh, PackMom, what a horrific tragedy. Words don’t matter. Just wrap your arms around your son and hold him tight.</p>
<p>Packmom, I remember you posting about that accident in the past. That’s one of those cc stories you don’t forget. How shocking that another boy has died! Prayers for you son!</p>
<p>Packmom, I remember the original accident. So sad there is yet another tragedy to mourn. Had your S stayed in touch with his friend in recent years? Give him a long, loving hug for me. We are proud of all he has accomplished over the past four years. It has not been an easy road.</p>
<p>Packmom, my heart aches for you and your son. Things like this just don’t make any sense. I hope that your son can use the strength that got him through the first tragedy to make it through this one.</p>
<p>Adding my condolences, PackMom. You’ll be there for your son and it will help.</p>
<p>My 2012 grad d lost a friend, who was part of a tight-knit group of 6, a year and a half ago. The other girls will always share a special bond. I can’t imagine how your son feels to have lost the friend he shared his grief with. Wishing him peace.</p>
<p>packmom - wishing strength and peace to your son, and to his friend’s family, and to you as you hold him close and try to help him through this loss.</p>
<p>What horrible tragedies for someone so young to endure. You helped him through the first time and you’ll help him through again. Wishing you all my sympathies.</p>
<p>CC friends, thank you so much for the thoughts and prayers. S2 will surely need them all. He’s living alone while doing a summer internship in a town 30 miles from his college town/friends. </p>
<p>His friend was run over in a parking lot by a drunk driver after an arguement in a bar. His friend’s companions were able to identify the driver and the car for the police. The driver is in jail charged with murder,felony hit and run, driving with revoked license and dwi.</p>
<p>Also my S1 broke his hand on Thurs during combat training for his deployment to the Middle East in Nov. When it rains,it pours.</p>
<p>Oh my god. What a terrible way to go. It may take a while for these events to play out in your son’s heart. I wish him all the best. It’s a lot for a young man to absorb.</p>
<p>So sorry to hear this. Hugs to you and your son.</p>
<p>Oh my. When I mentioned wanting to keep this thread alive, I had no idea what many meanings that would have. I have been thinking about your son all day, packmom.</p>
<p>Packmom, so sorry for you and your S. What a horrible tragedy.</p>
<p>Packmom, my thoughts and prayers are with your son today. (And your other son - hope it was his nondominant hand!)</p>
<p>Packmom, that is absolutely terrible.</p>
<p>My son has a HS friend who lost a parent and his only sibling to suicide. Then, just this winter, his college GF died of cancer. He had taken a leave from school to care for her. One asks oneself why a person should be visited with so much tragedy. How much can one person bear. Of course, history is replete with even worse examples, the Holocaust alone providing so many. What can anyone say.</p>
<p>I’m sure you want to hold him closer right now, and I think you should do so, if he’ll let you. This is not a time for worrying independence. My best to you and your family.</p>
<p>Packmom, I’m so sorry to hear of your son’s–and your–pain and loss. There are thousands of us around the country sending beams of comfort.</p>
<p>Packmom- You are right. There are no words. So much grief and trauma at such a young age. Warm thoughts for all. It is terrible to have to refer back to whatever gently, and I would imagine slowly, moved things forward after that the last losses so soon. I am sorry.</p>
<p>Thank you so much everyone. Can’t tell you how much it means.</p>
<p>Saw S2 for a brief time this afternoon as we passed through his college town where he spent the weekend. He seemed OK…by that I mean handling it as well as he can… but you can never tell with guys. He really didn’t talk about friend3…talked about other stuff. He’s not one for expressing a lot of emotion.</p>
<p>He’s actually living in our vacation home while doing his internship. DH and I were there for the weekend when all this happened in our hometown 4.5 hours away. S2 was with friends for the weekend in his college town when they got word of friend 3’s death. I texted S(he wasn’t answering phone) and asked if he were coming back to our house but he said he was staying in the college town with the guys (who also knew friend3 well). It was the same way when his other friends died four years ago. He wanted to be with his friends all the time. I guess they all shared a common bond.</p>
<p>So now I’ll worry about him rattling around in our vacation house alone from now until Friday when he can go back to college town/friends again. His internship is 8am-5pm Mon-Fri. So he’ll stay busy during the day. Maybe it’s a good thing that he’s not here in our hometown where it’s on the news and everybody is talking,asking questions,etc.
That part was really hard for him when his two friends died four years ago. So many questions. At least this time he’s kind of removed from the situation.
Hopefully,some distance will help.</p>
<p>Thanks again…y’all are a great bunch of people.
p.s. S1 did break a bone in his dominant hand but assured me this afternoon (phone call) that he had been to Walgreens and purchased two stout emery boards and some adhesive tape which made a deluxe splint…doesn’t want to go to the Dr. because he’s scared the Doc would cast it. Says he has too much going on with deployment work-up to be bothered by a cast…men…ugh.</p>
<p>S has a job! He’s working in a new restaurant that seems like the perfect beginning for him. The young chef has followed the same career path S is on–liberal arts B.A., a couple of years working, two years of culinary school, then a succession of chef positions in well-reviewed restaurants. (I don’t know how I ever survived without Google.) He is where S would like to be in 10 years. It should be a great learning experience. Today is his first day, so I’m eagerly awaiting the stories. </p>
<p>Unfortunately, this sudden employment interrupted his unpacking. I guess I can’t complain!</p>
<p>PackMom, please give us an update on your son when you have a chance. I hope he’s doing okay.</p>
<p>Congratulations!</p>