<p>thanks for the light 2blue </p>
<p>my freshman son also loves his foam bed topper and fan~a good nights sleep is a very good thing</p>
<p>How completely and utterly frightening Lindz!! Especially in light of so much other stalkerish behavior and outcomes out there. Makes you wonder if we parents ever have a clue to what goes on in kidsâ minds these days!</p>
<p>My mom makes quilts⊠quilted their baby blankets (that I still find either under the pillows or at the bottom of the sheets when I change them) and as their gift for graduation. So thatâs covered. Alarm clock has been his cell phone for the past two years - I doubt any buzzer other than that stupid song would wake him up! I learned the first time to wait until I saw the desk situation before the lamp choice and no printer seems necessary anymore. I canât imagine taking him shopping for this stuff⊠I can sense the foot-dragging just thinking about it. All I do know is that I will triple up on boxers with plenty colors and whites in the mix so no matter what load of laundry he does he can get clean underwear out of the mix. if nothing else, he is rather picky about that.</p>
<p>Oh lindz how awful! So glad you have the relationship with your D that allowed her to bring the text messages to your attention and that you are the sort who will take action. Well done mom and congrats on the grad!</p>
<p>Tired of Snow also has a graduation tonight. </p>
<p>I think you two are the earliest.</p>
<p>With all the talk about missing the graduates as they move on to their next step I thought I would add something a bit more upbeat.</p>
<p>What Iâm not going to miss:</p>
<ol>
<li> Preparing 2 meals because D either wonât eat what we are eating or because she must have her pre race meal.</li>
<li> The MESS and clutter that one very busy D can create.</li>
<li> Cleaning 3 bathrooms every week. I mean with only 2 of us in the house do we really need to use all 3?</li>
<li> Reorganizing my day around her committments if she needs someone to drive her. Yes she has her license but there are some places still where I do need to take her (ie. she canât make the track bus because of IB exams and thus needs me to drive her because the school wonât let them drive themselves)</li>
<li> The mess she creates with out even trying.</li>
<li> Cleaning mud out of the carpet because she came home from practice and proceeded upstairs without taking her sneakers off.</li>
<li> Making her lunch in the morning.</li>
<li> Keeping the peace between her and H. They are just too much alike.</li>
<li> Helping her study â yes she still on occasion likes me to quiz her.</li>
<li> Oh â and did I mention the MESS one small D can make?</li>
</ol>
<p>How scary! Itâs a good thing that schools generally pay attention to these kinds of things.</p>
<p>Lindz
That is truly scarey. I am so glad you D is communicating with you about it so you can take precautions and/or help find this kid some help</p>
<p>lindz126 how scary. Hope everything works out okay. This came at a bad time for me as earlier this week at a neighboring school a senior shot himself in the bathroom â 2 other students, it was reported, found him. The kid had a whole arsenal at the school in his locker. There is nothing good to say other than at least he didnât cause bodily harm to anyone else. Iâm sure that the ones that found him have issues with finding him and the student population in general will be experiencing problems perhaps such as feeling secure at school. Itâs just so difficult to ready about children taking their own life or someone elses.</p>
<p>an entire month to go here before graduation</p>
<p>this is going to be a very short summer</p>
<p>and on the topic of studentsâ deaths - a junior here was found dead from an apparent overdose. so sad</p>
<p>I have a friend whose child got involved in an inappropriate relationship at a young age. The child threatened suicide if not allowed to continue the relationship. The parents took their child to a counselor who said, âYour child really means it.â So the inappropriate relationship continues to this day. I donât know what parents are supposed to do when faced with talk of suicide that is not a mere threat.</p>
<p>Going over a possible class schedule for D for Summer term. Then moving on to Fall term. Because she is starting Summer, sheâll be able to select her Fall classes when she has Summer orientation, WAY ahead of the those waiting for Fall orientation.</p>
<p>Now off to <a href=âhttp://www.ratemyprofessors.com%5B/url%5Dâ>www.ratemyprofessors.com</a></p>
<p>lindz, that is so scary! Thank goodness your D didnât try to deal with this on her own. Sometimes kids think they can handle things that are beyond their experience.</p>
<p>rochestermomâI read about that, how awful. I agree how tough on the kids that found him.</p>
<p>missyâI would hope that in that kind of situation the therapist would let the child know that threatening suicide to keep a relationship puts the parents in a tough bind, which could also end up hurting herself if the relationship is that inappropriate. the "suicide threatâ and depression would need to be treated ~ rather than just feared.</p>
<p>lindzâŠso sorry you and your D were faced with this tough situation. Sounds like you handled it well. Iâm sure your D will be thinking of this for a while. What a good mom you are for stepping in and getting help!!! Sending hugs!!!</p>
<p>Very much at the other end of this spectrum is the constant refrain we are hearing from our seniors when they may hear a ânoâ to any and all requests: âBut itâs senior year!â âItâs the last time to <insert any=â" and=ââ all=ââ requests=ââ here=ââ>" âI am a second-semester senior.â âI am 18 and a seniorâ (get the idea?)</insert></p>
<p>There was a party on 4/30 ostensibly to celebrate where everyone was going to school. The next day was âsenior skip dayâ and they didnât have to be to the senior picnic until 10 or later. S wanted to sleep over at party. It has been our contention that nothing good can happen during a sleepover of any kind and although we have allowed it for distance and special dances etc during this year, this was not one of those times. he was given permission to go to party, have an extended curfew, but no sleepover. Son was furious. Said we were treating him like a sophomore. 
</p>
<p>On the one hand husband said, heâs an adult and will make these decisions on his own next year. Do we really want him so mad at us that heâll choose to never come home or that weâd risk losing him forever? On the other hand, my point was thazt to not have your teenager mad at you for providing clear structure is to not be a good parent - at least while they are under your roof. Weâre not talking about depression or suicide here, weâre talking ânormalâ teenage angst or antsy-ness. While husband and Iâs discussion was escalating, phone rang. It was S â apologizing for investing himself so firmly in an answer that he actually didnât care much about and it became more about his being right than listening to what we had to say.</p>
<p>Now was he sincere OR was he yanking our chain by knowing what to say so we say yes to future requests? I have no idea. Yet. But I figure weâve taught him something that he even had the good sense to look out for his future social life this summer. After all, itâs the last time heâll ⊠God knows what!</p>
<p>wow
an apology from oneâs son.</p>
<p>SomedayâŠ</p>
<p>Looks like you have done a good job raising your son Modadunn</p>
<p>Ditto #TM on the surprising apology by your S, Modadunn - your boy/man sounds like he gets it even though he may not use that knowledge often.</p>
<p>Lindz, that is so frightening for your D, but it may be a blessing to the boyâŠshe may have saved his life.</p>
<p>Any big plans for the last Motherâs Day at home? Weâre going to brunch, and I told my S that all I wanted was a poem from him. No doubt it will be along the lines of</p>
<p>Roses are red
Violets are blue
Hereâs your poem
Because you told me to.</p>
<p>My three kids all went to the same preschool. Every year theyâd make a booklet for Motherâs Day that was a fill in the blank thing with lines like, âMy motherâs favorite food is <strong><em>" "My motherâs favorite color is _</em></strong>___.â In every single booklet, every one of my kids put, âMy motherâs favorite thing to do is work.â Talk about pangs in this working motherâs heart every darned year!</p>
<p>Lindzâhow really scary for your daughter & you! Can you get her to change her cell phone so he canât text her anymore? I know thatâs hard, but maybe to put some distance? Rochesterâwhat a terrible experience, also.</p>
<p>MissypieâI know; I was in law school & working when son was in preschool. He made a poster: "I am happy when. . " He put in âwhen my mom is home.â (apparently it was a rare enough occurance to make it noteworthy!).</p>
<p>lindtz, how scary for your daughter. Hopefully there will be enough help for this kid.</p>
<p>Modadunn, apologies happen, just not frequently I think all the kids are pushing it at this point.</p>
<p>D back from AP Euro history test without her normal good cheer. Test seemed incredibly long and when the kids showed up there was neither a proctor nor the exams. Kids went to office and proctor arrived and eventually the tests but then there was all the preliminary stuff which the seniors had all done already. You can just see the exhaustion on her face. Was mad cause she had asked teacher to clarify various things that they never got to and test had a bit more of a modern bent than she would have liked (again the time period the class covered the least). Sheâs not really overly invested in it at this point but hates not getting 5âs. And when she finished griping she said she probably got a 4 or a 5 (good grief!)</p>
<p>This evening itâs off to the In the Know âbanquetâ of pizza in the HS commons â I bought the team a cake to make it a bit more formal. Then the weekend to relax before the final 3 APâs. Physics C on Monday and the double on Wednesday.</p>