I created a “Wedding Checklist” on Google Docs and shared it with D. We had a lengthy chat yesterday and were updating/changing/adding to the list as we spoke. So many details! It’s gratifying to check things off, and helps D realize things are getting done and all will be well.
I already know the Wedding Coordinator and her crew will be worth every penny we spend on them. Because this is a weekend, and it’s at a camp, there are many out-of-the-ordinary tasks – such as making all the guest beds in the cabins. (During camp in July & August, you make your own beds with camp linens, or some people bring a sleeping bag.) At a wedding we attended at camp last year the bridesmaids spent the better part of the day before guests arrived making all the beds. When D interviewed this Wedding Coordinator, who has done weddings at this camp before, as soon as she said her crew would make up all the beds, D said, “You’re hired!”
AND, in the best news ever category, S is going to be able to attend! His deployment schedule has changed – he’s at Combat Weapons Training in TX now for 3 weeks. Then he has some time before he leaves for the Middle East. We’re not telling D – plan to surprise the heck out of her on island. He’s going to wear his formal, Mess Dress Uniform. http://www.uniforms-4u.com/p-usaf-mess-dress-officer-uniform-11745.aspx Nothing like a man in uniform!!
CBB - how great that you S is going to be able to attend. What a great surprise for your D!
I’m the wedding planner for D’s wedding and I will say even though it’s not at the point of making beds there seems to be a LOT to coordinate. We start Thurs with all the girls getting manicures and pedicures. Friday night is the rehearsal dinner (grooms parents are paying for most of this) my S is having a local ice cream place do dessert and a set up with sundaes. Friday we will be out setting up as much as we can at the venue, Sat morning venue set up continues, hair and makeup ensues, getting everyone dressed in their finery and then back out to to the venue for pictures prior to the wedding. Then the wedding and reception and H and I will stay after to at least start the cleanup. Sunday morning back to finish getting things cleaned up and then off to S’s as all the out of town relatives are invited over to his house for brunch. Some time in that chaos on Sat I need to manage to find time to make a batch of homemade cinnamon rolls that he wants to have down at his house on Sun. Oh - I’m taking off Monday!
There is so much going on and none of it actually has to do with the wedding.
I did buy flowers yesterday and will see if I can make a simple bouquet today for practice.
If I find it frustrating I will order one for D and call it good.
My biggest issue is that I still do not have a single pair of shoes that will work. I have ordered and
returned 9 pair. 7 more on the way. Have been to 10 stores.
S enjoyed buying a sports jacket ensemble at Banana Republic. They were having a big sale.
DIL is happy as now he has his clothes for her eventual graduation and family weddings.
We are paying of course and happy to do so.
Arranged my hairdresser to come to our house and do S, DIL, H and myself on the morning of the
wedding. FMIL has not gotten back to me as to whether she wants hers done. Since I am not keen to
have the added obligation of being a hostess that morning I have decided to just not ask again.
If she says yes I will include her. If she says no I will say nothing about the change from the salon
to our house. I suspect she would want to come to our house as she will have been here before
and her H would drive her and…oh dear, then I would have two more people around…
small stuff and it will work out.
kmc, please keep us updated on your mom’s new beau. She is having fun!
shaw, the wedding sounds lovely and romantic for you and shaw W.
CBB, I have forgotten when your D is getting married–? And wonderful about your S.
I continue to worry that D is not doing enough to make their day special enough.
She does not have that flair for entertainment details and has not given me the green
light to go ahead. I know they are serious about saving as much as the wedding money
as possible. Had we known that we would not have given them the money outright.
ah, retrospect. She ends night call pretty soon so maybe we can have a talk soon.
In the end I think both FSIL and D just believe I will make it happen…
From what I heard in the hot tub the other morning during family campout, I’m not sure those updates would meet the cc terms and conditions re standards
She thanked my sib and I for coaching her to adopt a more “fun-focused” approach to dating because she claims to not have had that much “fun” in 15 years
In other news, like Shaw, off tomorrow on an odyssey to the North for my pals wedding. I’ll send proof of life if I have signal.
I know how to survive in the woods. The question is do I know how to survive a 9 + hr car ride with McH during construction season
Well Class of 2009 friends, Son has finished his final for his last class of undergrad. EIGHT YEARS. One at a small LAC. Four at community college. Three at a large state university.
If you are a Facebook friend, you will recall that he walked in May, but had to retake a class in summer school.
Goodness, what a journey. Thanks to all of you for keeping me off the ledge.
Congratulations, MP! Plus, he got married along the way!
I will be in Florida until tomorrow. Came down last Friday after my brother suggested my parents could use some help. After I made plans to come, my father fell and hit his head, and was in the hospital until yesterday, when he was released to rehab.
I’ve spent most of my time here going to the hospital twice a day to help my dad eat and interact with him. My mother and I realized he wasn’t able to eat much on his own. He has had some mental confusion after the concussion.
So happy for you missypie!!! Congratulations to both of you! I bet he is relieved.
I am hoping all of the wedding families take time to enjoy the process. But I am glad we are done with wedding planning and are now in baby shower planning mode! Had a meeting here last night for the young girls hosting the shower. Should be lots of fun with their creative influence.
CQ - hope your father improves quickly. How awful for him!
NM - Enjoy the process and time up to the big event. It is so much fun! We are awaiting number 3. D also mentioned that she and her fiance will be on that path eventually. Surprised as I wasn’t sure that she would have kids. She will need to be talked off the deep end on a daily basis. She gets a bit of anxiety.
MP - FANTASTIC news!!! How exciting and so happy you can now breath easier on that front. Some people just take longer than others. Most eventually get there although I’m STILL waiting for my H’s “little” brother to grow up. I think he is 52 now.
I am enjoying the wedding planning - just lots going on both at home and work. They are talking mandatory OT and at first it was just going to be 5 extra hours which I can do no issue - now it is looking like 8 extra that will be difficult for me until probably the new year what with the wedding and then the new grandchild’s arrival. I will figure it out. Wonder if they care if I bring my knitting in and work on it. I would say my sewing machine but that may be over the top.
Healing thoughts and vibes to your father, @college_query.
@missypie - BIG congratulations to you and S! Yay, yay and yay!!
@oregon101 - D’s wedding is 9/23. (It’s actually a weekend event, 9/22 - 9/24.)
Wedding vent/rant: We specifically did not enclose a mail-in RSVP card with the invitations. Instead, there was an enclosure card with the wedding website and a statement saying to please use the website to RSVP, reserve a cabin, find out what to pack, how to get there, etc. (This was deliberate, to force people to go to the website and read all the info since the camp venue is not the norm.) So what is it with people (mostly MY relatives) not RSVPing since “everyone knows we’re coming to the wedding.” Really?? Grrrrr!!
CBB I feel your pain. We are going to have to track some people down. How difficult is it to put an already stamped envelope in the mail and say you are not attending (or are in which case pick what you want for food). I mean really?
C_Q sending good thoughts to your Dad for healing.
So in May I applied for a job in another department. I got the job and told my boos, my new boss and HR almost 5 weeks ago. At first I was not going to go to the new job until Sept 1st due to vacations. Now it looks as if it will be Monday. I’m excited , but nervous. There are parts of my current job that I will not miss at all, but there is still an unknown factor. After almost 9 years it will be odd to be working with a different group of people.
My dad was improving a lot, and I returned home as originally planned. When I left he had been in rehab a couple of days, was able to walk with a walker and was feeding himself, and wasn’t experiencing the mental confusion any longer. It was a big improvement.
Traveling for work this week and will return home tomorrow.
Been very upset about the situation in Charlottesville - UVA is my alma mater. Just heartsick at what’s going on in this country.
Yes, @college_query I have been very upset too. I have lived in Virginia for decades. UVA is older son’s alma mater as well. So, of course I have been to Charlottesville many times and knew exactly where all these locations were that were being shown over and over. The candlelight vigil last night was beautiful. Taking Back the Lawn.
Echoing a lot of what sevmom said. I’m glad to hear your dad is improving @college_query . As for the Charlottesville situation I am very upset in general at what is going on in this country. And I’m afraid. I was just at UVA a few weeks ago with my sister and her oldest D who loved it. No one in my immediate family is a grad, but some extended family and many good friends are.
I am just so sad about Charlottesville and Spain. I have been glued to the TV. I sat on the couch and ate a whole bag of potato chips with tears in my eyes. I fear for my soon to be granddaughter. Looking for more ways to become involved and stop this hate. As my long time avatar says we must all work towards peace.
First, a big congratulations to MP. This hasn’t been easy and it took a long time, but a big accomplishment.
Charlottesville. Oy. This is just the latest in a series of horrible things but to have a President support avowed Neo-Nazis and white Supremacists openly chanting anti-Semitic and racist slogans is heartbreaking. I want to take action but am not sure what actions would be most effective
^ @shawbridge (and any one else) , I copied a FB post from a cousin which has some good suggestions for actions to take given the current situation. Not sure if I should post, but PM me if you want the link.
