Yeah MP! D and I went 2 times and the dress she picked really suited her.
D and SIL accepted an offer on their house last night. Basically very close to their asking price. I think they could have held out for more but they wanted to get out of it as they are currently carrying 2 mortgages.
When everyone is over my house it chaotic but I wouldn’t change it for the world. We read, play games, they run around, eat chocolate and candy and then I send them home. They are a bit afraid of the puppy because she is a bit wild around them so I either have her on a leash or in her crate. Not what I want but it’s the way it is currently. That too will change as she gets older.
Dentist appt yesterday as the side of my jaw has been hurting. Well work is getting to me. I have TMJ. Never had issues really before this project. I think the stress although I seem to keep it a bay during the day comes out at night and I must be grinding my teeth. In part I think this is due to not having time to do the things that I do to relieve stress. That has to change. So much money later I was molded for a mouth guard and it should be in in 2 weeks. Until then soft diet and lots of advil. Sigh…
RM, from afar, I keep wishing that you would switch jobs to something less stressful. Management seems a combination of intentionally pushing the team beyond what it should and intentionally oblivious to its actions and consequences.
As I said recently Shaw - I see the light at the end of the tunnel - now it could be a freight train bearing down on me ro I’m getting to the end of the tunnel. Still TBD.
To some degree I hate to quit anything although I do thing that they are being unreasonable about this project. This week I go from about 87 engineers to 24. Although that will be more manageable for me to handle it means that I will get less done. Now why they don’t understand that is beyond me. Just last week the VP of engineering said that I should make overtime mandatory for everyone at 60 hours a week. I mean really? I have lots of young people with young families - if you want people to leave that is one great way to guarantee it. He just doesn’t get it. So I told everyone that I would appreciate it if over the next 2 weeks they could work 55 hours. Most people are really trying to get there and we are getting things done but I think most of it is because of the way I approached it versus the way I was told to approach it. Once he finds out I will be hung but whatever. Today I brought in 10 dozen donuts for the team. Major milestone achieved yesterday so I thought opening my wallet was in line with them getting to this point. Work will no longer celebrate the successes so it has to be done by the managers.
Really can’t wait for another CEO. Hopefully this one will get the boot soon.
Tomorrow is a Very Signficant Birthday. I have spent all of 59 trying to figure out how to be 60. I’ve got to stop thinking about it. I just have to “be.”
Just watched DePaul women’s heartbreaking one point loss to Texas A&M. DePaul’s coach, Doug Bruno, is 67 and still seems vital and even cool.
After 10 months of working until 9 or 10 pm or later every night, nothing “extra” for me. Less stock than I received last year ( the lower awards were universal but I truly thought that an exception would be made for me); bonus was decent but exactly as it would have been had I worked 40 hours a week ( bonus based on health of the company, not individual achievement); raise will be in a month and boss confirmed it will be tiny (also universal.). Working for a public company is hard to handle- everything for the stockholders - sticks but not carrots for employees. Wild to think that it was acknowledged that I was the hardest working person in the company last year, but to have no material reward. No promotions to be had because the only one higher than me in my department is my boss and I don’t want his job.
The plus is that I enjoy the work. Maybe in a few years I can “retire” to work that benefits folks other than wealthy shareholders. (With that said, I acknowledge that I am depending on the success of my own investments to be able to ever retire.)
Bummer about the compensation. Believe me I get it! 7 hours on Sat and in order to do that I was at my desk at 5:30 AM. Yup what a way to spend a Sat. I am of the “age” where to be truthful I just don’t see the reason. I feel like work is impacting the rest of my life and not in a good way.
Haven’t posted here in a while, but always glad to catch up with everyone.
Happy Birthday @missypie! That milestone ( and all the “big” ones before it) never really bothered me much. H mopes some about “getting older,” but I figure it’s not the worth the time/energy since I can’t do anything about it. BUT, D turned 30 last week, and that got me! Where has the time gone??? Hard to wrap my head around that.
After a fairly decent February, March is just crazy weather-wise here. We’ve had 3 big snowstorms, and another one predicted for Wednesday. (Well, hopefully we won’t get all that much snow with this one.) Today it’s 27 degrees; feels like 16. I am SO done with winter; we need spring!!!
We did get to the west coast of FL for a week at the end of February/beginning of March, but now it seems like something from my distant past. We flew down with a friend of H’s who has his own plane – the fastest single engine prop plane, I think … It was a gorgeous, clear sunny day, so very scenic.
I had to come over and wish @missypie a very happy birthday and just cannot imagine we’re all getting to those milestones. I still think of all of us as frozen in time with high school seniors, I guess! Enjoy your day! Drink some wine and have some cake!
Happy Bday, MP. On comp, does the acknowledgement provide some grounds for you to negotiate a better raise? Would they be nervous about your leaving?
CBBB, I feel your wonder. ShawSon turned 28 last week. Finished his last graduate courses last week but may take one more course to keep grad housing for one more quarter. Has been living with the same GF for 2 years. ShawD (age 24) and BF (likely 28) are acting permanent.
We are heading to San Miguel de Allende for a few days to get out of the cold and snow. Meeting some Sausalito friends and staying with a friend from Boston/SMA.
Happy Birthday mp!
Hope you are celebrating in style.
I was relieved to read that you like your work–that is at least something.
D is here for a visit. We will look at daycares and apartments. She and SIL have one week to move
across country in June. I have a feeling I will be in contact with a number of landlords in May.
I am being very mindful that we are at a new stage in life. She is married and pg and now her own
woman. I am happy that she is doing so well and also aware that the mother/daughter dynamic
is shifting and fine tuning. So far going great. I shudder when I think of my relationship with my mother
at this stage. Definitely not repeating her mistakes.
The head of each department is given an amount which computes to x% per employee. For one person to get more, someone else in the same department must receive less. We are so lean that there isn’t anyone who isn’t pulling his/her weight.
Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone. Keeping it super low key. H and I were traveling over the weekend and I made sure we had a terrific meal on Friday night. I bought myself the perfect present “from H.” H won’t be home tonight, but younger D is home for two days before “real” spring break, so we are going to yoga then out for dinner.
Note that months ago, when asked by H what I wanted for my birthday, I said that I wanted to be on vacation in Portugal or if not, on vacation somewhere - I certainly didn’t want to be at my desk. But too close to Easter for a church musician to be away, so here I am.
yes work is hard. We get bonuses in cookies and lattes. LOL
I worked my tail off the last two days. never sat (until after shift over to document late) which I don’t get paid for. Patients mom is BS at me for something that is not in my control. I wanted to say “your welcome , I saved your kid from needing a breathing tube today’ and she is alive but hey… so it goes” I had lunch both days at 5pm . Yesterday I went to the bath room twice at 5 am and 930 pm both times at home.
I feel sad that people these days work so hard and do quality work and don’t get appreciation or compensation.
Happy birthday MP go to Portugal after Easter.
We are going to Ireland next fall. and probably England,
I wish Shaw could hire us all.
Congrats to all the baby and wedding news. I think my youngest will get engaged in the summer.
Let’s all hope today is a better day then yesterday as far as work goes. DTE I do get it. Doesn’t seem to matter what I do it’s not good enough. Hence the reason that I’m already at work.
I need to get myself back into a positive frame of mind. I know it is entirely dependent on me to do that. I now know that there is no reward for being the hardest working person in the company - but I have always given 150% in my work… How do I make myself give maybe 90% while still feeling good about myself - and not getting too far behind?
Not whiney MP - seems like when we should be starting to feel good in our careers and being able to settle in and slow down some that is no longer the case. In today’s world we have to prove ourselves every day. It’s a reality that I’m having trouble accepting.
They are a bit afraid of the puppy because she is a bit wild around them so I either have her on a leash or in her crate. Not what I want but it’s the way it is currently. That too will change as she gets older.
DTE I do get it. Doesn’t seem to matter what I do it’s not good enough. Hence the reason that I’m already at work.