Was anything said to him? Did he even pack the correct clothing?
Assuming he did pack them I think the one closest to him could have taken him aside and asked
gently if everything is ok with him. I would then be calling his neighbor or someone who sees him on a
regular basis and find out if his behavior has changed. Also, it could be confusion due to medications so
that needs to be checked out. Hopefully he has not done this fleece without a shirt before and has someone compliment him LOL so he thinks it is āinā.
My FIL wore stained and ill fitting clothes and H would not talk to himāso that is how he looked when we went out at about age 90. And it turned out to be poor taste and dementia. If I die first that will be my husband sooner rather than later.
I hope those who know me would tell me I am dressing inappropriately and see if I am consciously choosing to do so or am confused. As a consultant, I always try to judge the dress level of my clients to be neither too casual not too dressy for the context. Just went to ShawWifeās opening in London last night ā lovely event and sensational work ā and had business meetings in London earlier in the week and will have business meetings in Sao Paulo early next week. All require slightly different types of clothes. So, if I ceased to be sensitive to context, I hope someone would help me.
Guess it depends on the person. My H will dress appropriately if he feels like it. He can also be seen purchasing a car/truck in ripped jeans and an old flannel shirt. He figures he doesnāt need to dress the part if he is paying someone. 
That being said maybe the gentleman in question is at the point where he is dressing the way he is comfortable. I wear colored and patterned pants. Iām large sized. It is probably not appropriate but I just donāt care. I like so I do it. Embarrasses the kids some but well - I just donāt care any more. Just the way Iām wired I guess. Maybe this guy is the same. He just doesnāt care and figures if he is comfortable thatās all the matters. The vest seems weird but again maybe it made sense to him.
Can you believe that itās been 10 years since our kids graduated from HS?
Iāve thought about that recently @missypie . Time has really flown.
It is amazing!
Tomorrow is Hās 70th birthday party. 18 guests at a restaurant. Friends and family seem to think that all
I needed to do is make a reservation. I have spent the better part of 5 weeks ( when H finally decided he wanted a party after all) while having a tendonitis and sciatica and being immobile. Order the cake, seating chart (hours spent as this is such a diverse group), flowers, votives, follow up on RSVPās. Menu, cocktails, wine, and so on. This should be in the rant thread!
At least S '09 and DIL and Gāson are arriving tonight. That meant clothes for Gāson, shoes for DIL and S (DIL just finished medical school and they live on a dime) and a new game. But that was the fun part of the weekend. Cannot wait to see them. Gāsonās two front teeth are missing and it looks like he cut his own hair. He is 7 and is very much
like his dad.
S was a very difficult college student. He simply did not want to be there. It was like pushing a boulder up a hill. He transferred and his now wife became pg all by the age 21. Nonetheless, he seems fulfilled. I thank his FIL for joining me pushing him.
I know we have some great success stories here. I miss all of your updates when too much time passes.
Speaking of sons who are like pushing a boulder uphillā¦
Poor Son needs to find a new job. Does everyone out there realize that huge percentage of middle and high school teachers are expected to coach? As you can imagine, Son is not qualified to coach any sport ā¦the last organized sport in which he participated was 3rd grade rec soccer.
Backstory: Son teaches in a 98% minority district; elem. and middle school teachers have to be bilingual but the district has decided that the HS kids should be able to learn in English. This is a district where social promotion governs. Son recently asked a boy in one of his freshman classes why he does absolutely no work. The kid said he had done no work since 6th grade, had always been promoted and would quit school as soon as he could.
So, the freshman on level classes are very difficult to manage; the kids who stay in school are reasonably well behaved, so due to attrition, the senior classes are not horror shows.
The school replaced its head football coach after the season was over. So āimportantā is football spring training that the school where he used to work let him out of his contract to move to the new school mid year. The head football coach left. The assistant coaches resigned from coaching because the new coach gets to HIRE HIS TEAM. Are you getting this? The new assistant coaches all need teaching jobs, meaning that teaching jobs need to be open.
As the spring wore on, Son and another untenured guy in his dept. who doesnāt coach could tell that the administration was building a record. Son taught 6 classes where the behavior was good (including two freshman classes) and one class that was pretty wild. His classroom management for the wild class definitely improved during year, but there were quite a few troublemakers just waiting to be old enough to quit.
Beginning after the new coach was hired, Son and the other teacher were repeatedly observed in their one ābadā class and never in their other smooth classes. Neither had his contract renewed, due to āpoor classroom management.ā Now there are openings for the new Offensive Coordinator and Defensive Coordinator.
Does this happen in other states?
Wow MP. I have never heard of it in either Maine or NY - at least in our area. I donāt think any one sport is that big and some of the coaches that my kids had werenāt even teachers. They just came in an coached. People that worked āotherā jobsā¦ I do know that in the past it was difficult to get a teaching job in our area. Just too many applicants. I donāt know about the city - just the suburbs. Best of luck to him in his job search. Now with that poor classroom management follow him? Will that make it even more difficult for him?
Really liking the new-ish job. Been here 4.5 months now.
My 2 are doing well. Both married. S has his 3 - 2 girls and a boy. D is still not pregnant yet. I expect maybe in the fall? We shall see.
Happy Motherās Day if Iām not on again this week. Nothing big planned in my life for it. Expect to see kids/grandkids briefly on that day. H didnāt manage to get them all organized so D is busy Sat with her Hās family and S is busy Sunday. Oh well.
Tying jobs to coaching obligations is very common in TX. We had a neighbor who taught middle school science and coached. After she had a baby she wanted to stop coaching and the district said no coaching, no teaching job, so she resigned.
No one will blink an eye when Son tells them he resigned from the district. It is known as the kind of district that teachers are anxious to leave. (He was allowed to resign rather than be terminated.)
RM, so glad you like your newish job. Itās good for us all to know that we can still make positive employment changes at this stage of life.
Not for sports but my brother was quirky but beloved teacher with a real influence on some of his kids. When they wanted to get him to retire, they started doing very selective evaluations.
Heading to NY with ShawWife for a board meeting
I dont think jobs here are linked to coaching, The teachers I know can choose to coach. Would your son be more suited to a jeopardy like team or club?
I hate politics. Lots where I work too.
D1 graduated this Sunday form Law school. It was nice. She got a couple of awards her boyfriends family flew out to attend they are very supportive. Nice family. H was a bit emotional. I felt the same way when my D2 had her nursing pinning. It hits you unexpectedly. Very proud of them
D2 shower is in a couple of weeks. It has been pretty busy here.
Oregon it seems like yesterday your first grandchild was born.
MP what happened with FIL?
RM glad the job is good I envy you.
Not to bring up bad memories but it has been 10 years since my last dx. (hoping no more fingers toes hair and whatever else crossed_). A celebration of sortsā¦
Congrats on your 10 year anniversary, @downtoearth ! Also, congrats on the law school graduation. We also celebrated Sās law school graduation last weekend. We had an absolutely lovely time - my in-laws also came, and the weather was near perfect.
We are moving next week, but not very far. Hās current position ends at the end of May, and he starts a new position starting June 1 less than 20 miles from our current location. Weād love to stay where we are living, but our lease is ending and canāt be extended (our landlady purchased our current place with the intention of moving there eventually, and just sold her other home). We found another place to rent about half way between our current location and the new job.
Hope everyone is well!
CQ - congrats. That didnāt take long for your H to find another position. I donāt know if I could do the moving that often. Saw the picts of graduation. Congrats to you and your S. Was he able to find something yet? My S took a job where he summered so he was really set his final year. Made it less stressful and they paid him a stipend to study for the bar.
His job search is complicated by his planned area of concentration and his engagement. He interned at NY state entities, and his fiancĆ©e is starting an MBA in Boston this fall. So the plan is to study for the N.Y. bar and take it in July. When he moves to Boston, he plans to work for a legal temp firm until he receives bar results. NY has reciprocity with several states, including MA. Heās getting married at the end of December.
On the plus side, @downtoearth, my mother had breast cancer in 1985 and just turned 95 last week.
Finding jobs for two people in cities can be complex. Which school is your fiancee-in-law going to attend? [Feel free to PM. I know people at a number of the Boston business schools].
Currently finishing dinner in Stockholm. Here for meeting tomorrow. Then meeting ShawWife in Venice for 2 weeks in Italy, interrupted by a day or two in London for work. Then teaching for a week in Boston (interrupted bprobably by a day in Connecticut). Then California for a few days to speak at a big tech company and work with my startup. Then meet ShawWife in NJ where my motherās synagogue is honoring her before she moves to Memphis. Just sorting out the travel is interesting.
@shawbridge - she will be at Brandeis, in their Social Impact program.
Fantastic. Iām sure she will get a lot out of it.
I know a couple of faculty members in that program but not well.
Checking in, we know Shaw is having a great time.
I will be off to London soon. However as per usual. I have a glitch with a broken small toe. Wouldnāt think it would be a big deal but man even two weeks later it hurts.
I have had to work with it too and its is very uncomfortable.
had D2 shower and it went very well. Now celebrating my 35 wedding anniversary.
Hope you all are well.
Let me know if you want recommendations for a restaurant in London to have a special dinner.
DTE - hope it feels better soon and congrats on your 35th! We will be celebrating ours later this month although we probably wonāt do much. Maybe plan a future trip though.
Had everyone over yesterday. Cooking for 9 is a lot but fun to see the 3 grandkids and the ābigā kids (my kids and their spouses). We live close and get together on average once every week or 2 but itās always nice.