<p>mnmom2- it took D a LONG time to get over the ED denial from Smith. Kinda interesting that she likely will take a class or two there when attending Hampshire (although that did not figure in her decision at all). I actually think it was the denial from Smith which disheartened her so that she was listless about the other places she was applying and in the last two weeks of application season rejected everything that was “too far away”. She is happy with Hampshire but even the night she decided to accept she added that she should have applied to a few other places instead of where she did. So it just takes then a while to get over their expectations. I figured it makes sense because for many (even though not all) of them this might be the biggest disappointment they have had to date.</p>
<p>We are back from NC and have no decision yet. </p>
<p>On a different note, if a child has accommodations for college noted, does the kid get those accommodations on the placement testing?</p>
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<p>Oh no, I think there are a few others - ohiomom, scoutsmom, bksmn99. We could use the company! Did you see that there’s absolutely no problems in getting loungers on deck 12??</p>
<p>Funnily enough, we were at a friend’s house last night planning a summer cruise together. I had to bite my tongue and not say that we were still sailing on the SS Indecision!! They did ask D about her choice - and she told them she was stuck on 50-50 between the two schools :(</p>
<p>D did find herself a summer job !! Yay! She’s going to be a nanny of sorts - taking care of an older girl who has AS. She’s thrilled!</p>
<p>Weekend is almost here - we’ve stayed away from talking about THE DECISION - but I don’t think we can put it off much longer. H is away on work all next week - so we have to ask D about it this weekend. Hoping to get off the ship - madbean, when do you think your S will be getting off? I suspect he and D will be jumping ship together!!</p>
<p>I haven’t posted much in this thread as I’ve tried to keep my stress to a manageable level as I make the second trek through the admissions process with a kid. It has been quite the trek so I’m pretty darn proud of how well I’ve held up. He will be undecided till the bitter end. His last admitted students weekend is Decision Weekend.</p>
<p>Does anyone have an opinion (in a situation where financial aid is a judgment call) on (1) waiting to accept until the financial aid appeal is decided in the hopes that that may make the college more generous; versus (2) accepting before the financial aid appeal is decided in the hopes that that may make the college more generous?</p>
<p>325~ Are you talking about a reach or target pm me if you want :)</p>
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<p>arisamp, I’m literally seasick everyday. And it is not S2 who is keeping us glued to our deck chairs, it is DH and I. If we tell S2 he must go to the school he doesn’t care for (though it has a stellar reputation, there are less career-advancing opportunities, a campus he doesn’t like, almost certain tuition increases and who knows what scary program cuts) will he recover and adapt, make peace with the place, find friends, make his own opportunities, and thrive? Or will college become something he must just grit his teeth and “get through.” Will he blame us if/when things are really bleak? Oy!!</p>
<p>And while that choice has the lowest price tag now, is this all a false economy? With the more expensive option, wouldn’t their FinAid office be more likely come to our aid if jobs should be lost, or other crises occur over the 4 years? Will the great internship and networking opportunities, plus valuable hands-on projects more likely lead S2 to employment in his field? Or will he, even if he is happy there, one day realize that, you know what, college is college, and nothing is perfect–we should have gone with the state school?</p>
<p>I do realize that he has been blessed to have two very strong choices. But we have spent a huge fortune on private school for both our kids and now, we feel older and poorer. </p>
<p>I really wish this could all be his choice. We may have to break his heart.</p>
<p>D has narrowed down to 2 great music schools for jazz voice. One is a top tier conservatory that is very small & exclusive with fewer than 10 jazz vocalists. The other is a big, modern, well known school with state-of-the art facilities and tons of jazz vocalists. We are flying down and D is meeting with the studio teacher at the small program on Thursday! This means D has to make the decision on the road because the deposit has to be received (not postmarked) by May 1st. Ahoy, major stress ahead.</p>
<p>Still sailing along here too! S has narrowed to 2 schools and I’m pretty sure which one he’ll choose…but he still hasn’t committed. Is this fear of commitment likely to extend to other areas of his life too (e.g., marriage)? I guess it’s nice that he’s taking his time and being thoughtful, but the time is approaching for a “yes” or “no”. </p>
<p>Hoping this weekend is our last on the SS Indecision. It’s time to disembark!</p>
<p>Good luck to all still on the boat with me.</p>
<p>oh mnmom so sorry to hear that.</p>
<p>I don’t know if I have any strategies you haven’t already tried-I think a lot of how people cope with rejection and disappointment is how they are wired. My son is lucky-he has my husband’s ability to pick himself up pretty quickly and move on. Believe me, he was devastated to get his two rejections and one WL on 3/30-and felt like a complete failure and a disappointment to the entire town-but he got a little better every day and within a week or so he told me he had moved on.</p>
<p>The pain of that night will always be a tiny part of him-not something he will dwell on, but something that makes him who he will be as a man-and he will be better for it because that night had some very valuable yet very shattering lessons he needed to learn. </p>
<p>I think she’s still well within the grieving period though-it really has only been a few weeks since the last decisions were released. She’ll feel what she needs to and when she is ready she too will move on-maybe not on the schedule we as parents would like but she’ll get there.</p>
<p>Happy dance! Happy dance! S2 has announced his decision to attend…</p>
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<p>I only gave him a little shove off the boat, honest! :)</p>
<p>The college that our current HS senior is going to attend, Champlain, is one that denied my older son in his intended major of Game Design 5 years ago. When I told my older son (OS) that his brother had decided on Champlain, he said, “That’s great! He’ll like it.” I asked him if he would mind since I know how much he wanted to go there. Indeed, it was his first choice college too. At first, OS didn’t know what I was talking about. Why would he mind where his little brother was going to college? I had to remind him that he his heart was broken. OS said that he could have gone there (with a different major) and he had made the right choice with a different college.</p>
<p>So, yes, they do grow up and move on!</p>
<p>Just saw your post ohiomom ! Woo hoo on Duke!</p>
<p>Go Blue Devils!!</p>
<p>congrats Ohiomom!!</p>
<p>Woohoo Ohiomom! :)</p>
<p>Great news Ohiomom. Congrats.</p>
<p>Congrats on the recent decisions–Flmathmom with Rice, ohiomom with Duke and SandMom with UCSD!!</p>
<p>STILL sailing here…love the company that’s still onboard but looking forward to getting off the boat…</p>
<p>had a fabulous school visit today in gorgeous spring sunshine with D1 able to sit in 2 classes…an admitted student day but also a regular school day so I was able to chat with nonadmissions students while she was in class and she was able to get a feel for the school. We were both impressed…</p>
<p>there’s things she loves about each of remaining schools though so not much progress and I have a few more questions for FA at several of them on Monday…so the voyage continues!</p>
<p>Ohiomom, wonderful news! Congrats!!! Good to have you off that boat!</p>
<p>Great news ohiomom24!</p>
<p>Ohiomom24 - congrats on Duke! Fabulous school and great freshman program.</p>
<p>Welcome to dry land!</p>