We’ve hit a rough patch. Light some candles for us! I hope it passes (soon).
Hoping everything works out @Midwest67
Sending good wishes your way @Midwest67
oh no! Sending my very best your way@midwest67
@Midwest67 Good thoughts from here too!
@Midwest67 good wishes from me too!
Hang in there everybody. Kids likely hit some bumps now that most are 3 or 5 weeks in. It’s a good time to do office hours on campus. Best to all!
Good wishes @Midwest67
@BeeDAr That’s wonderful! I am so happy to hear the your daughter is thriving!
@Ballerina016 So far as near as I can tell with our limited communications, my D16 has been focusing on studying and not venturing out beyond that. I have discussed an on campus job and she is waiting until second semester. She has told me she has to learn time management skills and is trying to get some of her harder classes out of the way early. I wish she would look into some of the things that college offers beyond the books but so far nothing.
@livinginLA from my perspective, she is probably too worried about getting good grades to even think about being involved in anything or she thinks being involved will give her bad grades. I know classmates like that and right now they are actually the most stressed
You got it @Midwest67!
Ekk! Good vibes headed your way @Midwest67
D has picked six clubs. Three close to her heart (divesting from fossil fuels, veganism, and feminism). Three relating to her major (Engineers without Boards, Women in Engineering, Bioengineering). She made her first semester intense (both first year cornerstone engineering classes which are typically taken one a semester, chemistry with lab, and calculus 3). Finally, she really should get a job considering the tightness of the budget, but she doesn’t have work study which makes the pickings slim. She did text me earlier today about an “amazing” research job but won’t tell me anymore because it’s very competitive and she knows “how you get your hopes up.” Guilty as charged.
Bottom line, I think she has put too much on her plate and is headed for a rough patch too…
@-)
I just reread D16’s neuropsych evaluation, which she was required to submit to Disablity Services. I’m starting to think she’ll never be able to finish her desired degrees or even an undergrad set of gen eds, given this math LD. We’re talking serious deficits. Beyond the office hours, peer tutor, and extended time on tests, I don’t think the college can offer any needed accommodations. For example, can tests be non-cumulative? It doesn’t help that D16 can’t seem to have an informed conversation about her eval and needs. So, I had the (dreaded) thought that maybe I should consult the LD specialist at disability services. I better ask D16. Apparently letting D16 take care of all this has not worked. She is admirably soldiering on, however.
@dyiu13 I’m sorry that your daughter is going through this. Has your daughter signed a FERPA release? If she has not, you may be limited with talking to anyone in the disability office. Some schools will “listen” to your concerns, but will not have an open discussion regarding your concerns. Others won’t even listen.
@dyiu13 I’m so sorry for that realization. If your D signs the FERPA form and agrees, maybe having a conference call with disability services and your D would be useful. That way your D is still involved. Additionally I would be willing to give her some tips on self- advocacy
D16 has signed a FERPA waiver, but she says she wants to handle it all by herself. I’m proposing a conference call.
@dyiu13, what math is required for her major?
That is what we are asking her to find out. Is the general ed math a pre-reqs for the two semesters of Stats and one with semester of psych testing/eval methods/research? And, what are the math pre-reqs for her intended masters program? Plus a bunch of other questions about gpa reqs and semester gpa projection, pass/fail, Withdrawal, appropriate accommodations, etc.
I could drive up there today to review her neuropsych eval with her, but she declined – despite having demonstrated she has no comprehension of its contents or implications.
She is framing this as a “trust” issue and is refusing to discuss other that say she will get what she needs via peer math tutoring. I’m framing it as a “lack of info” and metacognition issue. She really doesn’t know the minefield she is walking through. I do. But, there seems to be nothing we can do but watch the expected disaster.
Hugs @dyiu13! I’m sure you’ve mentioned it on the thread before, but how did your D get through math in high school? Can any of those strategies be replicated in college?
We’ve all been supporting each other here for a long time. We’ve got your back, even if we are just a place to share your frustrations without being able to figure out any viable solutions. Your D is loved and working hard to propel herself forward. I know you see minefields but from the outside, I see a lot of success for both of you.