<p>So I am a transfer student, and I had the option of either going to a school that was closer to home (I would have lived at home) or go to a school that was far away (have to rent an apartment). I ended up choosing the school that is far away. I really thought that the experience would be completely different and something that I wanted, it is completely true, Im enjoying my time here, and learning all sorts of things, obviously being away from home is sad at some points, but Im not home sick. Something that I do constantly feel bad about is choosing the school that is far away because of the cost of housing. At home it would have been free of course, but here its about $10k a year. the only upside is that I live close enough to school that I dont need a car, so going here saved around $370ish/month on gas. But still obviously my parents are paying more because Im not at home. On a side note, I am a transfer, so Im only here for two years, actually finishing a quarter early, so less than two years. should I feel bad about choosing this school instead of choosing the one closer to home? My parents always said it was my choice, but of course no one WANTS to spend extra money. What do you think parents? Thank you!</p>
<p>I think you should talk to your parents and see how they feel about it. If they can afford it, and they want to give you this gift of living independently, then stop feeling guilty and express your gratitude to them. Don’t take their gift for granted, and let them know that you appreciate what they’re doing for you; that you understand that it’s costing them. Then when you’re fnancially independent, take them to dinner! And pay it forward to your own kids.</p>
<p>For us, we were happy to be able to give our daughter her education at the school she wanted.</p>
<p>I think your parents would not have given you the choice if they couldn’t afford it. Let it go and enjoy your experiences.</p>
<p>I bet your parents would like it if you mentioned how you appreciate their financial sacrifice for you to attend the school of your choice. And if you maybe took the garbage out without being asked when you’re at home. :)</p>
<p>Your parents gave you the choice likely because they understand that living away from home is an important part of the college/life-learning experience. I doubt they would have offered it if it was a major financial strain. </p>
<p>However, I bet they’d really like to hear you say thank you - tell them how you feel: that you love apartment living and that you’re grateful to be able to do it. Tell them, thanks for your generosity. I also bet, hearing that would make their day (if not week.)</p>
<p>If your parents are like my husband and me, they want you to be where you are & they are okay with paying for it. But I will tell you that the greatest thing that happened to us was when our kids told us how much they appreciate what we do for them. Make sure you tell your parents thank you! :)</p>
<p>thanks everyone, i really do need to tell my parents how much i appreciate it!</p>
<p>I’m glad you are aware of the high cost of your choice. Saying “Thank you, thank you” would be a good thing. After that, another good thing would be to make sure you get to classes and make the most of the opportunities you’ve been given. </p>
<p>Doing those two things should let you let go of guilt feelings. Good luck!</p>