<p>I've been a casual observer of this forum for a couple years now. I've made some very general observations that have always bothered me somewhat, and wanted to surface them and make others aware. </p>
<p>First off, I'm not starting this thread to attack any parent or tell them they shouldn't care where their son or daughter goes to college. I am, however, tired of reading countless parents obsessing about the 'prestige' factor of their son or daughters college selection. It's frankly not the job of the parent to step into the admissions process and influence their child's college decision based on a preconceived notion that one particular school has a higher standard of academic reputation than another University. </p>
<p>The parents job, at least in my eyes, should be to inform their child of what is financially reasonable (which schools are affordable, which are not) and then from this point onward allow their son or daughter to make any decision they so choose without influence from their parents. If that decision is a local community college, fine. If that decision is Princeton, fine (though I frankly don't value the Ivy League education over that of a standard public University). </p>
<p>I think there are a lot of parents out there, too many, who want to be able to boast of their child's potential acceptance to what they describe as 'top tier' Universities. I am from Wisconsin (as you may have summarized from my username). When I was looking at colleges and my friends were going off to University, parents that had children going to University of Wisconsin Madison would often feel the need to assert this fact to everyone they came in contact with. 'My S/D got accepted to Madison!' they'd say with a snobbish enthusiasm. </p>
<p>The reality is, though Madison may have a better academic reputation than (for sake of example) University of Wisconsin Milwaukee, a parent should take anymore pride in sending their son or daughter to Madison than they would Milwaukee, if that's where the kid wants to go. </p>
<p>I've never been one to respect Ivy League schools. I think they're overrated and often filled with snobbish elitists who simply attend them for the mere sake of proclaiming to the rest of the world that they are on track to be successful. That's all B.S. Success is relative to the individual. Success isn't attending a prestigious school, graduating law school, or getting a medical degree.</p>
<p>I am a Kinesiology major. When I tell people this I get one of two reactions. The first being -- what the heck is that? The second is a nod with a slight grin as if to insinuate that I'm simply majoring in a less prestigious degree. I'm not going to make lawyer money. I get that. But my parents are proud, perhaps even moreso, because I am choosing to enter a field that I love and am passionate about. I love fitness, I love helping people be happy with their bodies, and I find it fascinating. They're not proud because I picked a prestigious school (I didn't -- even though I was accepted to Madison). They're not proud because I'm working towards working for a big-name law-firm or graduated in the top portion of my class (I didn't -- I graduated 50th of 230). </p>
<p>They're proud because I found a school that I love and a career I'm excited about. That's all that should matter to a parent.</p>
<p>Just my two cents. </p>