Then it sounds like it makes sense to finish out the history major and note on your resume that you have taken extensive coursework in polysci.
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Your parents have no tie to the university - only you do.
Example - my daughter won a scholarship from my employer, that due to some admin issues, my employer has yet to pay. Turns out they sent my daughter an email that it will pay the school by xmas.
I wrote the person at the foundation that runs my company’s scholarship and asked to copy me - and she said I can’t. I have no involvement.
The bill, everything goes in your name…not your parents. They just happen to pay for you.
But you are the one with the relation.
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Previously you described…
“update: still sleeping excessively, learned that i got a 47% on a midterm last week. i told the prof everything and he gave me a “sorry, but you already took the test” (which i don’t blame him for!). feeling like i should withdraw and run away (not go back home)”
“I told my parents about the physical aspects and they just said I was being a gross POS and all of the physical symptoms would go away if I just ate more meat and took vitamins.”
“the psychiatrist wouldn’t prescribe me anything although he did get me in touch with the Disabilities Office (which is notoriously bad at my school).”
“Update: my psychiatrist at my school told me to contact the disabilities office due to my anxiety. But the disabilities office told me they couldn’t make any accommodations for me. Interesting.”
Have you managed to get mental health support, received a formal diagnosis and or been prescribed medication? I remain concerned that you need professional support beyond the well intentioned scope of the CC community’s expertise.
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I started this thread to discuss something unrelated to my mental health. To answer your questions, yes I have. But I’d appreciate it if we could keep this thread on topic.
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Great then I think your question has been answered multiple times. Your parents have no standing to seek legal action and no attorney could pursue any action without your consent.
Good luck and don’t worry about it.
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The school isn’t a person and hence can’t form thoughts about you.
Yes some people in the school’s legal office will think you and your parents are weirdos but so what you will never see them again.
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You are a polisci/ history major. These majors tend to have lower paying jobs unless you go to grad school and have specific training:
History majors make even less and have limited options. https://www.bls.gov/ooh/life-physical-and-social-science/historians.htm
Jobs with a BA are in teaching.
Are you a US citizen? In other words, are you legally able to work in the U.S.?
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Your parents can consult with an attorney. Whether or not they have standing to sue and whether or not there are any actual, as opposed to speculative, damages are significant issues that can be discussed.
OP: Your parents are too involved in your life; they are micromanaging you when it is more appropriate to stand back and watch you grow.
It is easy to understand why you are experiencing so much stress at a time in your young life when you should be experiencing freedom.
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I don’t think one major is better than another for your idea of working after graduation.
Did your new school not accept your credits because you actually did not achieve a B grade or better? From your description of failing a test due to depression, I think this is why credits weren’t accepted.
Your parents have no claim against the school. I’d be shocked if they could find ANY quality of lawyer to take their case, let alone one with big enough guns to take on a college. If there is no case, then there is no reason for a claim letter - so none would be generated. This is not something you need to lose another minute’s sleep over. Graduate with the history degree and distance yourself from your parents.
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History may be a better major than poli sci. Why are your parents so stuck on poli sci?
You do not have to work in a field related to history after graduating. To increase your career options, volunteer, intern or work in a position that clarifies goals and gives you skills.
I know you don’t want this included here, but with proper documentation I have never heard of a Disabilities Office refusing accommodations.
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If your parents are intent on following this path there isn’t much you can do to stop them. Of course, they will be unsuccessful and (if they find a lawyer willing to take the case) will waste a lot of time and money, but that is out of your control. I’m in agreement with the other posters who suggest finishing up with a History major - it isn’t going to be significantly different than PoliSci in the eyes of most employers. For what it is worth, History was one of my majors and prior to doing what I’m doing now I worked in financial services for 15+ years. I don’t see the major as an impediment to corporate work if that is what interests you, although I would suggest getting an internship or volunteering (in areas related to what you want to do career-wise) and make sure you take some quantitative coursework to augment the history.
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No, I got As in the classes. This is not why they weren’t accepted.
My fear is that a lawyer who just wants their money will go about their way trying to take on the school knowing it’s a lost cause. Not a good look for me.
They have the same amount of leverage to sue your school as I do.
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Interesting that your old school was an Ivy League school where you achieved As in your courses. With those facts, I can not understand why the credits were not accepted.
Saying that, schools do say that they may not accept credits. If they didn’t, that is their choice, as what your parents decide to do is up to them. You should stop your fear and worry and just focus on your studies. Cognitive behavioral therapy is what you should look for.
OP - I’m going to agree with the other posters who suggested getting off of CC and focusing on your health and your studies. Your parents won’t be able to successfully sue the university. There are simply no grounds. IMO, this is just a big distraction. It reads like you are using this as a crutch to avoid what you should be doing - studying and securing an internship for next summer.
Disengage from your parents about this. Avoid calls if you have to and text that you are busy in a study group or whatever, and can’t talk. Finals are coming up. Your energy is best served studying, preparing, sleeping, and avoiding stress.
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OP- hugs to you. You have certainly had a rough time of it in college.
1- your advisor, professors, friends will not know that your parents are trying to sue the school. So put this out of your head.
2- the lawsuit is likely not going to go very far, so don’t worry AT ALL about the lawsuit interfering with your ability to get a corporate job. It will never elevate to the level of “Wow, these people sued a university, we don’t want this guy working for us”. Nobody is going to know about a failed attempt, even if it gets that far.
3- You cannot prevent your parents from meeting with a lawyer. When they want your help or involvement, your answer needs to be- consistently “right now my priorities are passing all my classes, studying for finals, writing papers” or whatever stage of academic life you happen to be in. Just don’t engage. You have a job- and that is being the best college student you can be.
4- Get off CC. If you need mental health support, you need to find a counselor in real life who can listen and help. If you want to make sure that your history degree positions you for the kind of jobs you are interested in, spend your free time at professor’s office hours, going to lectures/talks/symposia at your college, or working with someone in career services to help you find a job or internship this summer.
5- Find something to love about college. Anything. All you can eat frozen yogurt in the dining hall. Free concerts on the weekends. The library which can give you borrowing privileges at any university library in the world, and a trained and expert staff which can help you find answers to anything (not wikipedia- actual primary sources).
Hugs to you. Your parents sound challenging, but if you remind them that you need to do well in college, and continue to remind them- they may back off a bit. Tell them you want to graduate with honors and therefore don’t have time to talk to them except for 4 pm on Sunday afternoons. That will cut down on some of your aggravation, no??
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I wish it was that simple. But my parents are insisting that they won’t pay my tuition for the upcoming semesters if I don’t spend time with them on the phone trying to “prepare for a claims letter.”